By Blue Rose on Thursday, 27 of August , 2009 at 3:34 pm
It’s not the situation that causes stress, but the person’s perception of the situation. Listen, there’s not one universal stressor. A traumatizing experience for you may be taken as a challenge by the person next to you. Faith in God in your own strengths and in other people’s goodness is crucial. But here are three more essential factors that will help you discover how well you can survive your new, less golden life.
1. Foundation while growing up – ask you’re self: “What kind of upbringing did I have? Did my parents impart good values? Did they teach me how to be strong in times of trial? And to always have a positive outlook in life?”
How you were brought up is a big factor in determining how capable you are of handling problems that come your way. If you were a spoiled rotten as kid who learned no values whatsoever, dealing with your penniless state will be very difficult. However, if you were brought up with a balanced set of values, then it’s up to you to put everything you’ve learned from your folks into practice.
Andrew’s mom was capricious, overly indulgent, and knew nothing about child discipline. When she died, Andrew expected his relatives to cater to his whims and serve him, just as his mother did. His foundation of values was almost non-existent, which made his new poverty unbearable both for Andrew and the people around him.
2. Support system in place – ask you’re self: “How will my new financial status affect my relationships and my social life? Will my rich friends still be there for me? Or will I have to replace them with a new set of friends? Will my boyfriend stay with me even if I have no more money? Will my relatives treat me the way they did when I was rich?”
Family and friends who can and will support you in this time of need are essential. Some people who found themselves in dire situations were able to start a new because of another person’s pr presence and assistance. This is also the best time to discover who your true friends are. Your changed status may break old bonds, but there will always be other, more durable relationships to take their place.
Stephanie’s relatives stopped coming to their place after her family’s financial downfall. They could no longer host lavish get-togethers. She can only able to share her story to her true friends.
3. Your own personality – ask you’re self: “Am I tough or sensitive? An optimist or a pessimist? Self-reliant or dependent? Proud or humble?”
Research proves that it takes six months after a new situation transpires to determine how a person will deal with changes in his life. It was discovered that optimists who became paraplegics eventually regained their positive outlook in life. Before, they were “happy people.” Today, they are “happy people in wheelchairs.” Pessimists who won the lottery were “poor money-pinching worriers” before. Now, they are “rich money-pinching worriers.”
Your outlook in life is based on how you interpret the world before the changes occurred. If you’ve got a positive view in life, then you’re all good! If not, it’s time to change your attitude. If you choose to change your negative behavior, people will response can alter your negative thoughts, and eventually bring about new positive situations.
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 5 of August , 2009 at 3:46 pm
Connie Glaser and Barbara Smalley will tell you how women find the soul of success, in this book ‘When Money Isn’t Enough.’
This book is about successful women who made it to the top of their game. But after bagging the promotion and the prize money, they quit – because they realized that there are other things in life that are more important than the four corner of thier office. Such as time with the family, more creative space for a favorite hobby, or a career shift to help the lesser privileged. The move cost them, in terms of a pay cut, a demotion, and sometimes even friendships. It’s not politically correct for women achievers in the US to turn down the next step up; it just might send the wrong signal to the male-dominated corporate leadership that women just can’t cut in the big time. Still, the women in these stories followed their hearts and are happier for it.
By Blue Rose on Monday, 3 of August , 2009 at 3:21 pm
“What would you like to do with your money?” “Do you have enough to do with as you please?”
Financial planner Suze Orman says that the thought doesn’t have to worry us. A victim and winner of life’s ups and downs, her little book gives tons of tips on how to multiply the little that you think you have right now. The how-to’s of investing. What insurance do you need? The amount of pension money you’d need to retire comfortably. Because most of the conditions are set in the US, however, the reader would have to do her own mental juggling and occasional homework (e.g. BIR instead of the IRS, the current deficit of the SSS, etc.). Still, the principles are sound. The general ones – being responsible financially, facing our worst financial fears – are universal and apply to everyone. All in all, a thought-provoking read that needs a closer look at home.
Available in all leading bookstore.
By Blue Rose on Sunday, 2 of August , 2009 at 5:54 pm
Filipina girls, some are conservative some are not, Filipina’s are yet reserve for their feelings and attitudes.
Thai girls are not conservative at all; they are open in “every thing”, open minded, open in ideas, open in anything new. They don’t have reservation for their feelings and attitudes, maybe for some low class girls but for girls with breeding, sure they have reservation.
Filipina girls are religious and believe in Church, as a Catholic they believe in the Holy Bible and follow the teachings.
Thai girls are also religious; they have great faith in their Buddha and believe in their ways.
Filipina girls are polite, shy, kind and sweet. They pay great respect for the elderly and their family and parents.
Thai girls are also the same; most Asian’s have the same characteristics towards family. Thai girls are sweet and kind “if you have money”. If you don’t have they are also sweet and kind.
Filipina girls are loving and caring. They will love you until the end; just don’t make any moves that will lead them to leave you.
Thai girls are also loving and caring “especially” if you have money; they are extra caring and loving. If you don’t have money at all to provide their material things, say goodbye.
Filipina girls are supportive and hardworking; they provide everything for their family even if the husband doesn’t work.
Thai girls are also hardworking, they work to support their family but not their husband, if you don’t have money, sorry for you. They are supportive in telling you to find job always.
Filipina girls are quite and are not so talkative.
Thai girls are loud and talkative and noisy, they are more aggressive and straightforward.
These are just some of the characteristics and attitudes I had learn from our 1 month of stay in Bangkok, Thailand. I remember my husband told me one evening when we are having a conversation, when he went to a massage parlor, coz he always likes to have foot massage, he said one of the Thai girls says, she likes him, spoken indirectly coz she doesn’t know how to speak English, just the other masseur told my husband. Then my husband replied, “sorry I’m with my wife”, the girl said, its ok I want to be your girlfriend. See how they are so aggressive and open minded, and of course my husband is a European so they thought he has a lot of money to provide them what they want. Maybe some of the Filipinas are also thinking like that, but as known they are more concern on their husbands love and care than the money. And that’s for sure.
By Blue Rose on Thursday, 23 of July , 2009 at 8:32 am
People who do not succeed have one distinguishing trait in common. They know all the reasons for failure, and have what they believe to be air-tight alibis to explain away their own lack of achievement.
Some of these alibis are clever, and a few of them are justifiable by the facts. But alibis cannot be used for money. The world wants to know only one thing – have you achieved success?
As you read the list, examine yourself carefully, and determine how many of this alibi’s, if any, are your own property.
IF only I didn’t have a wife and family…
IF only I had enough “pull”…
IF only I had money…
IF only I had a good education…
IF only I could get a job…
IF only I had good health…
IF only I had time…
IF only times were better…
IF only other people understood me…
IF only conditions around me were different…
IF only I could live my life over again…
IF only I did not fear what “they” would say…
IF I had been given a chance…
IF now I had a chance…
IF only other people didn’t “have it in for me”…
IF nothing happens to stop me…
IF only I were younger…
IF only I could do what I want…
IF only I had been born rich…
IF only I could meet “the right people”…
IF only I had the talent that some people have…
IF only I dared assert myself…
IF only I had embraced past opportunities…
IF only people didn’t get in to my nerves…
IF only I didn’t have to keep house and look after children…
IF only I could save some money…
IF only the boss appreciate me…
By Blue Rose on Monday, 13 of July , 2009 at 9:19 am
“I made up my mind, then and there, that I would get the necessary million dollars within a week. How? I was not concerned about that. The main thing of importance was the decision to get the money within a specified time, and I want to tell you that the moment I reached a definite decision to get the money within a specified time, a strange feeling of assurance came over me, such as I had never before experienced. Something inside me seemed to say, ‘Why didn’t you reach the decision a long time ago? The money was waiting for you all the time!’
“Things began to happen in a hurry. I called the newspapers and announced I would preach a sermon the following morning, entitled, ‘What I Would Do If I Had a Million Dollars.’
“I went to work on the sermon immediately, but I must tell you frankly, the task was not difficult, because I had been preparing that sermon for almost two years.
“Long before midnight I had finished writing the sermon. I went to bed and slept with a feeling of confidence, for I could see myself already in possession of the million dollars.
“Next morning I arose early, went into the bathroom, read the sermon, then knelt on my knees and asked that my sermon might come to the attention of someone who would supply the needed money.
“While I was praying I again had the feeling of assurance that the money would be forthcoming. In my excitement, I walked out without my sermon, and did not discover the oversight until I was in my pulpit and about to begin delivering it.
“It was too late to go back for my notes, and what a blessing that I couldn’t go back! Instead, my own subconscious mind yielded the material I needed. When I arose to begin my sermon, I closed my eyes, and spoke with all my heart and soul of my dreams. I not only talked to my audience, but I fancy I talked also to God. I told what I would do with a million dollars if that amount were placed in my hands. I described the plan I had in mind for organizing a great educational institution, where young people would learn to do practical things, and at the same time develop their minds.
Will he succeed on his million dollars preach?
Last chapter will come soon.
By Blue Rose on Friday, 10 of July , 2009 at 10:24 am
This story proves the truth of the old saying, “where there’s a will, there’s a way”. It was told by the beloved educator and clergyman, the late Frank W. Gunsaulus, who began his preaching career in the stockyards region of South Chicago.
While Dr. Gunsaulus was going through college, he observe many defects in our educational system, defects which he believed that he could correct, if he were the head of a college. His deepest desire is to become the directing head of an educational institution in which young man and women would be taught to “learn by doing”.
He made up his mind to organize a new college in which he could carry out his ideas, without being handicapped by orthodox methods of education.
He needed a million dollars to put the project across. Where was he to lay his hands on so large a sum of money? That was the question that absorbed most of this ambitious young preacher’s thought.
But he couldn’t seem to make any progress. Every night he took that thought to bed with him. He got up with it every morning. He took it with him every where he went. He turned it over and over in his mind until it became a consuming obsession with him. A million dollars is a lot of money. He recognized that fact, but he also recognized the truth that the only limitation is that which one sets up in one’s own mind.
Being a philosopher as well as a preacher, Dr. Gunsaulus recognized, as do all who succeed in life, that definiteness of purpose is the starting point fro which one must begin. He recognized, too, that definiteness of purpose takes an animation, life, and power when backed by a burning desire to translate that purpose into its material equivalent.
He knew all these great truths, yet he did not know where, or how to lay his hands on a million dollars. The natural procedure would have been to give up and quit, by saying, “Ah, well, my idea is a good one, but I cannot do anything with it, because I never can procure the necessary million dollars.” That is exactly what the majority of people would have said, but it is not what Dr. Gunsaulus said. What he said, and what he did is so important that I now introduce him, and let him speak for himself.
”One Saturday afternoon I sat in my room thinking of ways and means of raising the money to carry out my plans. For nearly two years, I had been thinking, but I had done nothing but think!
“The time had come for action!
What do you think Dr. Gunsaulus will do to raise the million dollars?
See you all on the next chapter.
By Blue Rose on Sunday, 24 of May , 2009 at 4:42 pm
Why do some of the Filipinas like Foreigners to be their husband or boyfriend? What has to do with the Filipino guys? Is there any differences in attitude and character? Is money and luxury has great effect on it? or it has to do with love even if you belong to different culture and races?
Tell me your comments, answers and suggestions, I may post it and let our men redears know why, how, and what they have to do to capture a Filipina Heart. I will gladly appreciate your comments.
