Long Distance Relationship…Up until when?
By Loving Asya on Monday, 20 of July , 2009 at 4:31 am
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If you are in a long distance relationship, read on…
If you will ask me if long distance relationships work, it depends. Not that I’m playing safe or anything. I’ll speak first in general. Most of our beliefs are based on what suits our personality and situation and it also depends on our needs. I can speak only for myself, but for other people, they have their own opionion on this. There are some people who don’t believe in LDR for obvious reasons. Some people could not stand the distance. And again, it boils down to their personality and needs. They need physical connection with their partners. Not necessarily making love, but usually in a relationship we feel that certain urge to always see our partners, to be able to touch them, to feel their affection and attention through physical presence. For some people not all relationships are based on feelings. So I guess the question should be “CAN YOU HANDLE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?” Kasi kahit may statistics pa at mga survey about this certain topic, still, depende yan dun sa dalawang taong involved. (Because even though there is a statistics that says about this topic, still long distance relationship depends on the two people involved in it).
To relate it to my situation, like early this morning a friend of mine asked me how do I and my gf manage. First of all, I’m not a believer of LDR. Just like everyone’s reason of it, Gaya ng reason ng iba, ganun din ako. Same with my gf, hindi rin sya naniniwala sa LDR. So bakit ko ‘to pinasok? I hate what if’s. I used to believe that long distance relationships are like time bombs. It’ll explode anytime. There is an expiration date, a finish line. So in short…waste of time. This is actually the first time that I went against my own belief. But I succumbed to my situation kasi for me mas waste of time yung at least one minute everyday nagwowonder ka (because for me it is a waste of time if I’ll wonder for the rest of my life thinking what could have been only if I tried it) what could have been if you tried it.
Having to choose between emotional relationship and physical relationship, I’ll choose emotional relationship in a snap. It would be better if you have both pero kung isa lang ang pipiliin (but if I were to choose), I’ll choose the one which is more meaningful. I don’t know about other people who are in LDR if they feel the same way as I do, but for me it’s like this: I’m loving my gf both in faith and in fate. Faith that despite the uncertainty I know something good will come out of this and fate knowing she crashed into my world for a reason. What I hold on to isn’t just because of LOVE, I’m hanging on to that HOPE that one day we can be physically together every time we want , as in inseparable by proximity. I don’t need other people to gauge whether what we have is real or not, because for me it is. She became my reality. We may not see each other as often as we want, but I trust her heart and what we have.
How do we cope? We always go back to where we started and that’s all we need to remind ourselves why we are together in the first place. Of course, as a couple we’re far from being perfect. But if you both trust how you feel and what you have, distance may not be an issue. Sa lahat ng relationships, most of the time what you guys need lang to make things work is to COMPROMISE. (In most relationships, what we all need is just to compromise).
About other issues like cheating, temptations, growing out of the relationship blah blah blah……again, if you respect and trust your partner well enough, DISTANCE MAY NOT BE AN ISSUE. As an individual, just do your part. If you are in a long distance relationship, pinasok mo na rin lang yan, mahalin mo na (you succumbed to it, then by all means, love her infintely… whatever it takes), don’t hold back. As a couple, kung ang mga magkakalapit nga binabagyo ng problema (come to think of it, even those lovers who are together still face the turmoils of loving), what made you any different? Whether LDR or not, it still is a relationship. If you survive all of it, then you deserve to be together. If not, then you can’t push it. Whatever happens, happens.
To everyone who can relate:
TAKE A STEP AND JUST TRUST WHAT LIES AHEAD.
