By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 26 of August , 2009 at 8:30 am
Girls, did you think you’ve got your date all figured out? Well, don’t be too sure!
Movie time – you are on your first date, and the cinema gets cold. You tell him you’re getting chilly, and he lends you his jacket.
You’re thinking: “he’s being such a gentleman; he’s such a sweet guy.”
On the other hands: so many things can be going on his head. First of all, he’s probably feeling unpleasantly cold himself. If you think about it, he didn’t really have a choice. Not giving you his jacket after you told him you were feeling cold would have made him a total pig. He could also be hoping that you don’t take his actions the wrong way. This being the first date, he may still be unsure about his feelings for you. He could even be a bit worried that you interpret this as a romantic gesture.
Eye to eye moment – during a boring class, you happen to glance at that special guy and catch him staring at you. You lose consciousness for half a second, and when you look again, he’s pretending to look straight at the teacher.
You’re feeling: tingles up your spine as that corny yet exciting romantic rush takes over your mind.
On the other hand: he’s most probably in a state of panic. Guys hate losing their smooth and suave style by getting caught staring at that special girl in the middle of the day. It turns their self-perception from a cool and stylish James Bond to a silly little boy with a crush on a girl. Indeed, something like this makes them feel a bit embarrassed and may cause them to be uncomfortable for quite a while.
On the phone – you call him on his cell while he is with friends. He talks to you in the most stone-cold, emotionless tone ever. You try to fight it with the sweetest of sweet talks, but all you get is a distant, “I’ll call you later.”
You’re thinking: “he is so mean! He’d better be begging for forgiveness when he calls me later!”
On the other hand: he is most probably just as upset by what happened. A guy can talk to you in goo-goos and gah-gahs. He can give you the corniest food related pet names. He will make those silly kissing sounds and even say good night to your teddy bear. How ever, in front of the boys, he is one tough guy! Trying to make him behave like his normally sweet self while in their company is like forcing the president to do the Macarena on TV.
The dinner date – there’s one last piece of your shared main course (a piece you’d be too embarrassed to get). Without asking you, he gets it with his fork, puts it on his plate, and starts eating it.
You’re thinking: “how rude! Didn’t his parents teach him any manners? This is the worst date ever!”
On the other hand: your date could be so glad he can go out and feel so comfortable with someone like you. Yes, guys will be guys, and they will always love their food. If it were an uptight and uncomfortable put-your-best-foot-forward kind of date, he would surely have offered you that last piece, or maybe even left it there untouched. Here’ however, he is obviously so comfortable around you that it makes him feel he can let his guard down and simply be himself. And that’s a good thing, trust us.
The good night kiss – your date drives you home. When his car stops in front of your house, you lean over to give him a friendly beso (kiss) on the cheek. Unexpectedly, he turns to you and kisses you on the lips.
You’re thinking: “what the…? That was inappropriate!”
On the other hand: he may think he just made the smoothest maneuver of all time. He starts seeing himself as one of those charming guys in American TV series he secretly likes to watch, and begins to think that he’s got you figured out. Although he may be a bit nervous and uncertain, he will not admit this to you or to himself. He will continue to feel proud of that “big kiss!”
By Blue Rose on Monday, 24 of August , 2009 at 8:00 pm
When love ages, the romance gets blemished. This is one hasty generalization among ladies, especially those who, after years of relationship with their boyfriends or husbands, feel that their partner’s eyes have lost their shine. Some would even get a fit of nostalgia: comparing today to back when the guy was courting them; some would even start demanding answers to questions like “Why don’t you give me flowers anymore?”
Really, aren’t we guys big fans of long-term relationships? Can it be helped? Can you still do anything about it? Well here are the big news ladies: Yes, you can…
1. Wake up kiss – love is never dead; in most cases it’s just “sleeping”. And as such is the case, we need a little nudging from you. No need to push us over the edge of the bed, though – what we need is a gentle stroke and a sweet voice to open our eyes. We need you to complain less and do things a woman really in love would do to revive the relationship, like the things listed next until 7. Think them over, and somewhere you might find the missing link.
2. Soft whispers – okay, we may not always read your mind, or do the things you like us to do. We understand if you feel bad about this. But instead of complaining, why not try talking to us in a lighthearted manner? Things get straight into our head when they are said gently. That’s a fact.
3. Sweet toe to toe massage – at the end of a busy day, nothing beats getting a good massage. In fact, we’ll be happy about a reciprocal foot spa, while we pretend to massage your tootsies when what we’re really doings is tickling you plus satisfying our foot fetish. Feeling your touch on our skin does not only make us feel deeply relaxed and at peace, it draws us closer together. (And we presume this is what it does to you, too!)
4. Food for the heart – you know what they say about the stomach being the quickest way to a man’s heart. Now keep this in mind: good food keeps a man in good mood. Just imagine, then, what really good food with your personal touch does to both of us! You won’t need to prepare the dessert because that would be you!
5. Reminisce the past – put on your sexiest dress, play that long forgotten theme song, and dance with us like its prom night all over again. This especially works if you were our prom date then. If not, this might make us wish you were our prom date back then.
6. Appreciate our passion – showing us that you have at least a vague understanding of the things we are interested in, such as basketball, football or rock music, makes us feel more comfortable wit the relationship. You don’t have to memorize every basketball team or David Bowie’s entire album, though. Once in a while, a few well-placed inquiries us to who won or who made a scene-stealing move, is enough for us to engage you in a new kind of conversation. Oh, we’ll fake interest in your newest Manolo Blahnik acquisition, too, just to make you know we believe in justice.
7. Take care of yourself – true, we sometimes get far from amused when you act as if you’re our younger sister, being pa-cute and all, instead of our lady love. But we also love it when you don’t take yourself too seriously, or too maturely. It doesn’t hurt to feel young as long as you don’t suddenly go back to your teenage identity crisis days.
And please, don’t forget your looks. Seeing you making an effort to look beautiful for us are already a good sign, what more seeing other men get envious for the kind of lady that we have. So what if love is aging? The lady we love is not! And if you’re not sure how, we will give you an unsolicited advice: turn to beauty experts. In our opinion, all their research labs are meant to churn our beauty breakthrough after breakthrough…so that all we hombres need to do is admire the results on you.
By Blue Rose on Friday, 7 of August , 2009 at 4:09 pm
Here’s a quiz for you to know if you’re a guy getter or not.
1. In line for the concession stand at a concert, you notice a cute guy in front of you. What do you do?
- a. Say, “Wow”, this is a long line. Lucky for me, I’m in good company.”
- b. Squeak out a “hi” that probably gets drowned out by the music.
- c. Stick 500 bucks in his back pocket and tell him the drinks are on you.
2. Are you usually comfortable with making the first move on a man?
- a. Um, does Paris Hilton like to gossip?
- b. Yes, but you always try to gauge his interest before making a play.
- c. About as comfortable as you are at the gyne!
3. At the gym, you spot a guy with a ripped body in the weight room. You:
- a. Hightail it to the locker room and vow to chat him up after you’ve taken a shower and put on some makeup.
- b. Say, “Hey there, would you mind showing me how to use that machine when you’re done with your sets?”
- c. Grab his biceps and exclaim, “Wow! Someone’s working out!”
4. How do you use your eyes when you want to reel in a man who interests you?
- a. Look toward him, then away, then at your shoes.
- b. Eye contact is a complete waste of time. You prefer to go the route of “accidental” grazing.
- c. Lock in his gaze, glance away, and then glance back flirtatiously.
5. You’ve fallen for a close guy friend. You:
- a. Comment that a mutual pal said the two of you would make a cute couple and see how he reacts.
- b. Kiss him and profess your love when you’re both tipsy.
- c. Stay silent. Why risk losing a friendship?
Scoring: 1. a-1, b-0, c-2; 2. a-2, b-1, c-0; 3. a-0, b-1, c-2; 4. a-0, b-2, c-1; 5. a-1, b-2, c-0
0 to 3 points- Flirty Fraidy Cat
You may think your M.O. is uber chill, but the truth is, making barely noticeable overtures shows you’re frozen in fear of rejection. Before heading out for the night, tap into your inner goddess by listening to sultry songs. Then, when you spot a guy you’re attracted to, “jump in with a smile and compliment to get the ball rolling”. Simply putting yourself out there is all it takes to start a connection.
4 to 6 points – Stellar Seductress
Be relying on confidence and a playful attitude – not your body – as bait, you’re alluring in more than just a physical sense. You also have a knack for knowing which men are good for flirting practice (a hot guy in a drink line) or the full-court press (a torpe pal who needs prodding). To push the envelop even further, “speak more softly when you want to hook a guy so he has to lean in to you.” advises Eve Marx, author of Read my hips.
7 to 10 points – Man Magnet
You’re so skilled in attracting a guy; your body practically has a gravitational pull. But sometimes – make that much of the time – you come on too strong. “Forcing yourself on a guy may lead to a hook up, but ultimately, it won’t be fulfilling,” says clinical psychologist Jud Kuriansky, PhD. “Instead recognize the power in restraint.” Ask a candid friend if your approach is too extreme, says Kuriansky. When you selectively deploy flirty moves, you draw guys looking for more than a fleeting night.
(Source: Cosmo magazine)
