By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 3 of March , 2010 at 5:33 pm
Sometimes we thought love don’t exist, and most of all we thought it is not meant for us. So we end up not believing in love.
After all the pains and heartaches that we encounter and suffered, we thought that there will never be a happy ending for us. We keep the bad memories into our hearts and minds, trying to remember it when we are starting to find someone, so then we never give ourselves a chance to fall again as we are reminiscing the past.
We are afraid that it will happen again, it will cause us more heartaches, memories just keep on coming like a ghost of our life.
We never give a better thought of that, never knowing that the past and bad memories are the one that can heal our broken heart and shatered dreams. Keep remembering them, but not to get us hurt again, but to make us strong and fight for what is really meant for us.
All has a chance to love and be love, to make us happy and to build our dreams again. All has bad and good memories, but it will be up to us on how memories can help us rebuild our life and future.
Be strong, believe in yourself, never give up, and most of all ”DON’T BE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE AGAIN”.
Just like what this song is telling us:
One Last Cry
My shattered dreams and broken heart
Are mending on the shelf
I saw you holding hands, standing close to someone else
Now I sit all alone wishing all my feeling was gone
I gave my best to you, nothing for me to do
But have one last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind this time
Stop living a lie
I guess I’m down to my last cry
Cry……
I was here, you were there
Guess we never could agree
While the sun shines on you
I need some love to rain on me
Still I sit all alone, wishing all my feeling was gone
Gotta get over you, nothing for me to do
But have one last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind this time
Stop living a lie
I know I gotta be strong
Cause round me life goes on and on and on
And on…..
I’m gonna dry my eyes
Right after I had my
One last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind for the very last time
Been living a lie
I guess I’m down
I guess I’m down
I guess I’m down…
To my last cry…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz-NhGanOAE
By Blue Rose on Sunday, 13 of September , 2009 at 6:02 am
How you live through fights
- “Do women really have to raise their voices to get their points across? Contrary to popular belief, men do listen and they’re easy to talk to – as long as they’re not being yelled at. Otherwise, they tune out.” – Hans, 28, artist
- “My ex-girlfriend would shower me with kisses whenever I got upset with her. It usually worked and my heart would soften. But because we never really talked about our issues and only resolved them physically, our communication wasn’t open and issues kept resurfacing because there was no proper discussion.” – Richard, 32, manager
-“Stop whining, nagging, screaming, and complaining about everything because it’s really irritating when a girl does these things if a girl has something on her mind, she should talk to her boyfriend nicely. Guys don’t like to fight. I would have preferred it if my ex appreciated all the things that I did for her instead of having complained all the time.” – Dennis, 30, businessman
Syncing up in the sack
-“I dated a single mom who was five years older than me and had three kids. In bed, we never had more than one round lovemaking. When she was satisfied, that was it. After two years she told me she didn’t have the energy for sex anymore and suggested I find a younger woman. I did – much to her regret.” – Francis, 27, singer
-“If you expect your boyfriend to go down you, please wash up first. Also, a little trimming wouldn’t hurt.” – Trevor, 28, racer
-“Be a bit more assertive in bed. If your lover isn’t performing up to par, tell him how he can improve. Be specific and don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to hurt his ego. In the end, if he sees you’re enjoying, that’s a big ego boost for him. Encourage him tot el you also how you can be a better lover.” – Ben, 26, marketing manager
Matching your fundamentals
-“I’m a very family-oriented guy. I need a girl who understands that I will always be involved with my family. Sometimes I’ll need to drop a prior engagement with my girl to attend to family matters and an old girlfriend couldn’t understand that. She ended up feeling neglected and alone but didn’t know what else to do. As far as I knew, blood was thicker than water.” – Markus, 34, restaurateur
-“You know how people say that you’re supposed to be able to depend on each other? Well, there’s such a thing as being too dependent…” – Larry, 29, IT engineer
-“My ex-girlfriend had halitosis and it really put me off, but I couldn’t tell her. There were times she’d want to cuddle, like when we were watching a movie, and it killed me because her breath just smelled too much like spoiled saliva. When my own mother noticed her bad breath, I thought it was time to break it off. I wanted a girl whom I could proudly show off and be with, not one who repelled me – and my family and friends – physically.” – Garry, 33, teacher
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 9 of September , 2009 at 7:00 am
Learn from your past – and be the best girlfriend
You need not wish an ex-boyfriend ill. Instead, make better use of your time and emotions by taking advantage of bitter breakups and dude dramas – and coming out the truly better half.
It didn’t work out. Now what? Whether your boyfriend ducked out or you called it quits, truth is, you can learn a thing or two from each failed relationship. Ultimately, it’s you – because you have full control over how your next relationship can be better. Here, we help you pick up self-improvement cues from your ex-boyfriend’s raves and rants. Listen closely and learn how to makeover your girlfriend style and ready yourself for Mr. Next.
What Makes You Girlfriend Material
- “Having ambition and goals is a big turn-on for guys. Men may base their first impressions on women’s looks or sense of humor, but we really do looks for hints as to how a woman’s personality will pan out in the long run. Will she be dependable, or will she just drag a man down?” – Sandy, 32, manager
- “A girl should go out with someone who’s more like her. I think my ex was a bit too aggressive and neurotic for me while I was laidback and lazy. We both tried to compromise by becoming more like the other person. That led a lot of tension and unneeded resentment.” – Nathan, 27, call center agent
- “Pretty girls are used to being chased by guys. So when they get into a serious relationship, they forget that they have to sacrifice all the fun flirtations of the single life. If one man adoring her isn’t enough, then she should just stay single.” – Teddy, 22, student
- “Many girls take nice guys for granted. And when the jerks they end up with start breaking their hearts, they wonder what happened! Those girls should screw their heads on straight and see that nice guys are here to stay – for the long haul!” – Francis, 30, Engineer
- “Though the sweet, mahinhin type is appealing for many guys, we don’t particularly want to have a partner who’s as meek as a worm (read: no backbone). On a first date, girls should tell guys where they’d like to go or what they’d like to eat, and be open to their date’s suggestions as well. Guys like girls who are confident, but not too bossy.” – Patrick, 26, executive manager
Managing Relationship Expectations
- “My ex would get infuriated with me whenever I forgot to text her, ‘Good night. I love you’ before going to bed. If I didn’t text her, I would wake up with at least 10 text messages in my mobile phone – all from her, telling me what an inconsiderate ass I was. The issue got really old very quickly and I couldn’t stand her insecurity anymore, so I dumped her.” – Mel, 33, accountant
- “I like a woman who has no problem with ‘guy time.’ My friends will always be a part of my life. A woman can’t replace then and she certainly can’t make me choose between her and them.” – Paulo, 27, teacher
- “I can’t stand it when girls get so clingy. They start whining about being alone and hopeless without me at their beck and call all day long. My ex-girlfriend used to do that and I ended up leaving her because she just didn’t understand. I have my own life and if a girl can’t handle that, then we aren’t meant.” – Dan, 29, banker
-“My ex had a split Jekyll and Hyde personality when it came to showing affection. She was the sweetest, most loving girl who would shower me with kisses and give me tight embraces – but only when we were alone. In public, she was as stiff and cold as a corpse. I would simply hold her hand and she would reject me. I didn’t like the fact that I couldn’t show to the world how much I adore my girl. It eventually turned me off.” – Randy, 30, graphic artist
There are still more coming’ up, stick with me and you will surely know everything that man’s thinking about their girlfriends. I’m sure you will get a lot of tips from them on how to be the best girlfriend ever, win and melt their hearts. See you.
By Blue Rose on Monday, 24 of August , 2009 at 8:00 pm
When love ages, the romance gets blemished. This is one hasty generalization among ladies, especially those who, after years of relationship with their boyfriends or husbands, feel that their partner’s eyes have lost their shine. Some would even get a fit of nostalgia: comparing today to back when the guy was courting them; some would even start demanding answers to questions like “Why don’t you give me flowers anymore?”
Really, aren’t we guys big fans of long-term relationships? Can it be helped? Can you still do anything about it? Well here are the big news ladies: Yes, you can…
1. Wake up kiss – love is never dead; in most cases it’s just “sleeping”. And as such is the case, we need a little nudging from you. No need to push us over the edge of the bed, though – what we need is a gentle stroke and a sweet voice to open our eyes. We need you to complain less and do things a woman really in love would do to revive the relationship, like the things listed next until 7. Think them over, and somewhere you might find the missing link.
2. Soft whispers – okay, we may not always read your mind, or do the things you like us to do. We understand if you feel bad about this. But instead of complaining, why not try talking to us in a lighthearted manner? Things get straight into our head when they are said gently. That’s a fact.
3. Sweet toe to toe massage – at the end of a busy day, nothing beats getting a good massage. In fact, we’ll be happy about a reciprocal foot spa, while we pretend to massage your tootsies when what we’re really doings is tickling you plus satisfying our foot fetish. Feeling your touch on our skin does not only make us feel deeply relaxed and at peace, it draws us closer together. (And we presume this is what it does to you, too!)
4. Food for the heart – you know what they say about the stomach being the quickest way to a man’s heart. Now keep this in mind: good food keeps a man in good mood. Just imagine, then, what really good food with your personal touch does to both of us! You won’t need to prepare the dessert because that would be you!
5. Reminisce the past – put on your sexiest dress, play that long forgotten theme song, and dance with us like its prom night all over again. This especially works if you were our prom date then. If not, this might make us wish you were our prom date back then.
6. Appreciate our passion – showing us that you have at least a vague understanding of the things we are interested in, such as basketball, football or rock music, makes us feel more comfortable wit the relationship. You don’t have to memorize every basketball team or David Bowie’s entire album, though. Once in a while, a few well-placed inquiries us to who won or who made a scene-stealing move, is enough for us to engage you in a new kind of conversation. Oh, we’ll fake interest in your newest Manolo Blahnik acquisition, too, just to make you know we believe in justice.
7. Take care of yourself – true, we sometimes get far from amused when you act as if you’re our younger sister, being pa-cute and all, instead of our lady love. But we also love it when you don’t take yourself too seriously, or too maturely. It doesn’t hurt to feel young as long as you don’t suddenly go back to your teenage identity crisis days.
And please, don’t forget your looks. Seeing you making an effort to look beautiful for us are already a good sign, what more seeing other men get envious for the kind of lady that we have. So what if love is aging? The lady we love is not! And if you’re not sure how, we will give you an unsolicited advice: turn to beauty experts. In our opinion, all their research labs are meant to churn our beauty breakthrough after breakthrough…so that all we hombres need to do is admire the results on you.
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 5 of August , 2009 at 3:46 pm
Connie Glaser and Barbara Smalley will tell you how women find the soul of success, in this book ‘When Money Isn’t Enough.’
This book is about successful women who made it to the top of their game. But after bagging the promotion and the prize money, they quit – because they realized that there are other things in life that are more important than the four corner of thier office. Such as time with the family, more creative space for a favorite hobby, or a career shift to help the lesser privileged. The move cost them, in terms of a pay cut, a demotion, and sometimes even friendships. It’s not politically correct for women achievers in the US to turn down the next step up; it just might send the wrong signal to the male-dominated corporate leadership that women just can’t cut in the big time. Still, the women in these stories followed their hearts and are happier for it.
By Blue Rose on Monday, 3 of August , 2009 at 1:35 am
Sometimes we close our eyes and just listen to the echoes of our hearts. We all fall in love and there are times we lose ourselves in our emotions. More, often than not, we wonder why there are loves that grows, and love that grows cold. We would start to search for an answer and try to find where love has gone wrong. But in the end, we find ourselves where we started for we cannot question love when it has its own reasons. Love will always be as it always has been…silent, mysterious and deeply profound.
Many of us believe that love is forever, that love never dies, only to be disillusioned in the end when we find our hearts longing. We mistakenly have looked at love as a need to be fulfilled. But love is only a gift given to us. We should not hold it in our hearts for we way never find the strength to let it go when it decides to leave. We should only embrace its warmth and glow while it last and then freely open our arms when its time to say goodbye.
When we fall in love with someone, we don’t want that feeling to end for it is everything we are, everything that we wanted to be. We pray that love will stay and grow in our hearts. But, if it doesn’t, then we should never let our lives be taken by it, for life should not end where heartaches begin.
There is always a reason why we have to move on. When we have to say goodbye to the feelings we wanted to stay forever, let us not wave our hearts with heavy feelings. For love have to set its wings free and find the place where it belongs. We may have lost it but then again, when we close our eyes and listen to the echoes of our hearts, we will hear that feelings resounding silently forever.
Then we’ll know that it has never left us, for the good that we have become because of love will always stay. It will always be there reminding us that we should be thankful and happy, not because we have lost love, but because, for once in our lives, that feelings lived in our hearts and made us happy.
By Aries on Friday, 17 of July , 2009 at 4:31 am
Wearing long skirts with long hair either let through or in ponytail, soft spoken with sweet innocent smile, refined and a bit shy, perhaps these are the things that occur first to one’s mind when thinking about Filipinas. Who would not? These are the classic qualities of Filipinas only that it was decades ago.
As modern technologies evolved and brought forth massive changes in every culture, Filipina ladies also changed. One can see these changes straight away from the clothes and accessories they wear until the very details of their possessions.
Alright, so much about the physical aspect. Now, let’s try to look what’s inside, the character that every Filipina possess. In the past you can find them at home helping their mother on the household chores. Some lucky ones were able to go to school, however, they were expected to show an impeccable manner. Most Filipinas then, if not all, were inferior compared to men. Filipinas are known to be honest. They are very respectful especially to their elders.
A perfect mother figure, Filipinas are very caring, passionate, hospitable and sensitive to the needs of others. They are very romantic lovers, faithful, understanding, loving and thoughtful. When given any responsibilities, they have the common sense emerging from their natural intellect. They can be very hardworking and patient.
Compared in the past, Filipinas of the new generation have come out of their shell. You can now see them active in the community. They become more independent and started to let their voices be heard. They have adapted to the modern way of life. Gone are the long skirts and refined personality. Are all these changes due to modernization? The answer in my opinion is “No”.
Tracing back the Philippine history, one can understand why the typical Filipina image changed. Though the American colonization greatly affected their way of life, still it is not the only reason. Filipinas suffered from different types of abuses during war and foreign invasion. They experienced being treated as slaves. They’ve lost their freedom and identity. Despite all the hardships, something special within them overcame it all, they endured with their indefatigable inner strength. They need to change to partly protect themselves from the maladies of human trafficking.
Now, if I were to say what’s inside every Filipina’s heart, my answer is just one. It’s GENUINE LOVE that keeps them forgiving to people who hurt them; positive in spite of life’s adversities; hopeful that better things will come their way; compassionate to others; and strong in facing negative circumstances.
Time may have changed many things among Filipinas but one thing remained, the genuine love within their hearts. It is the kind of love that lets them endure the grievous experiences of the past and the same love that will let them defeat misfortunes of the changing tides of time.
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 17 of June , 2009 at 4:35 am
This is for all the hearts that have been broken and shattered because of love. Hopefully you can find your true partner in the dance of life.
The Dance of Life
There were two hearts who meet in the dance. That moment was magical. There was a sweet song playing, there was harmony and soon, love in the air. They feel in-love and they started building castles in their dreams and promised forever with all certainty.
But, somewhere in the midst of the fun, they got lost in the dance, something went wrong but they can never do anything. They were just drifting away, their fortress falling apart. There are so many questions, but no one had an answer.
Then the music stopped and then there was silence.
When we truly love someone, we give our best and let that person see the pureness of our intention. But sometimes that person makes us cry and hurts us for the wrong reason. That someone must have loved us but he has not loved us enough to make him stand for what he truly felt.
Now we are faced with seemingly impossible tasks of forgetting. We have burdened ourselves long enough but we still can’t get out of his emotional trap. Let us remember that the more we try to forget someone we love the more painful letting go will become.
Sometimes we never had to take that person out of our hearts at all, for he will always be there no matter how hard we try to drive him away. It isn’t his presence that makes this difficult. It is our stubbornness to accept our destiny that aligns forgetting next to impossible. We keep a cold face but deep in our hearts, there is still that lingering hope reconciliation. Somehow we still believe that we can rekindle small embers and relight the fire that once burned in our hearts. These thoughts give us hope but it also breeds the seeds of loneliness and despair.
The only way to forget is to accept and the only way to move on is to look ahead and let the footprints of the past be blown by the wind of time. Only then can our hearts find a partner in the dance of life and hopefully never get lost again.
