Life and Love of a Filipina

It pays to wait

By The Dreamer on Saturday, 8 of August , 2009 at 4:26 pm

Wait!? This word really keeps ringing on my ear since I observed that I’m getting in a hurry on some of my plans. But before I delve in deeply, have we ever asked ourselves where on earth this word “wait” comes from? From the worldly point of view, this means remaining or resting in expectation of something. All of us have been waiting for something to happen in our lives even to the extent of being aggravated which sometimes make us stop on every thing we do. Like in my case, I’m getting too excited of what lies ahead of my life until I get to the point of forgetting some of the simplest things life has offered. Every night, before I close my eyes to get a very deep sleep after a long day’s work, I talk to the Lord and ask Him whether some of the plans I set will be realized. I even find myself funny whenever I imagine all my plans as if I’m watching a movie but in this case, I’m the sole actor. We kept on asking God why we are in these situations where we are expected to wait on something to come.

picture-of-filipina-in-pattaya-thailandYes, we all have numerous plans set by days, weeks, months or even years. Even others could be in short or long term plans. In my case, after I finished my BS degree here in the Philippines, the question

I have in my mind is, Where do I go from here? What will happen to my life if I choose to be with this or that? What happens if I take this step or the other way around? There are too many questions that we seek for answers. There are many roads that we need to take in life, but others may be twisted while some are straight as a stick. With this sort-of-confusion ringing in my head, whether to wait or go ahead of God’s plan, I found out that we just need to imbibe in our own minds and hearts these concepts.

Remember, life is an even keel. All of us are perfectly created by God. Our eyes, ears, hands, feet and other body parts are placed in their perfect spots. The number of senses and even the intricacy of our entire human body system have its own raison d’être. I remember the explanation of my teacher about the reason why humans have one pair of ears and only one mouth. He emphasized that we need to have this number of senses for a person needs to listen twice as much as he speaks. So better not pray to have two mouths and one ear because time will come gossips and lies will proliferate not just once but twice. Just wait because life is like a balanced weighing scale. We are the only ones outweighing it. Let’s just keep this equilibrium in state whatever happens.

Don’t run ahead of God’s plan. Yes, it’s normal that we sometimes run ahead of time. In this fast paced world of ours, feeble people are well disregarded. We beat deadlines and plan out things in advance. Human as we are, we always do these stuffs. We even put a schedule on the simplest things we do daily. You bathe, eat, and prepare things as fast as you can even to the extent of forgetting that you haven’t worn your underpants. But wait guys! Have we tried halting and pausing for a while and contemplate on the significant things that we did? Are all these things and plans we have are in accordance to our God’s plan? Sometimes, I seek deep silence for a while after being busy with so many things. Sometimes, I reflect whether I’m not losing out of my plans as well as His plans for me.

Then, answers just come along the way barely discernible.

Live life to the fullest. We can never turn back time so let’s make it possible to really live life to the fullest. We should keep our loved ones on our side and value the people around us. Let’s not be always in a hurry coz we tend to forget the more significant ones. Sometimes, it is us who creates not just a gap but a chasm between relationships with other people who are so important within our own lives.

pics-in-bangkok-zooWaiting on what lies ahead is so tedious but we should not forget that every second offers tranquility and peace of mind, every thing that happens reminds us to just be patient because there is a greater glory ahead of us and it pays to wait since He knows we are waiting. He sympathizes, for He himself had a very long suffering and patience towards His people. Human as we are, we tend to disregard this reason, but it is on the latter part when we come to realize the importance of this concept, “waiting”.

Life is great! Because after I occupied my mind with much life’s worries, destiny offered me blessings worth to be shared and new people meant to be loved. Sooner, my mother will give birth to the third child of our family, and this goes to show that I’ll be having a new person meant to be kept and loved.

With regards to my career, I was tasked to do something I really loved to. This is something that is within my inclination. With this, I get to deal and listen to some ordinary people sharing their simple yet fascinating stories in life.

Indeed, sometimes all of us just need to wait. For I thought back and think that life is an even keel and everything is on God’s control especially if we get to live our life to the fullest.

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Men turned off to Women, Why?

By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 5 of August , 2009 at 4:06 pm

At some point in your romantic career, you’ve probably reached the depths of despair, doubted yourself, and wailed, “Why?!? Why won’t he ask me out?!!? And your kindest friends, to preserve your self-esteem, offer: “Maybe he’s just…intimidated.” To help you along in your guessing game, we interviewed men around Manila on what would make them hesitate to approach a woman they found attractive, and what would absolutely turn them off.

Men speak on what intimidates and turns them off in women.

“Women who have experienced more things than I have: that excites and intimidates me at the same time. (I get turned off by) women who are too loud, who act like they work in a beauty parlor or a wet market.”- Joey, 26, pathologist

“If they’re suplada.”- Paolo, 26, commercial model

“The number one turn-off has to be gossiping. By that I don’t just mean saying nasty things about other people. Gossiping in my book is people-centered conversation. If a girl’s conversation has an NPM (names per minute) rating of 0.5 or higher, forget about it.”- Juan, 28, writer

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“I’m intimidated by women who are taller than me. I feel like they’re thinking, ‘Come back when you’ve hit puberty, little boy.”- Joel, 30, adman and actor

“What would intimidate me is someone who has a lot of authority, someone who has a lot more experience than I does, professionally speaking. I get turned off by girls who dress in skimpy outfits…slutty-looking girls.”- Jody, 29, Manager

“What intimidates me? Frankly, nothing. I just get turned off if I know the woman’s a party girl.”- George, 30, Real Estate Consultant

“What would keep me from approaching a woman to whom I am attracted would be beauty that calls attention to itself (though I don’t mean it as a neurotic preoccupation on the part of the lady). I’d like my beloved to be a personification of the haiku.”- Randy, 26, Instructor and Poet

“I would get intimidated by someone who is very very popular, the kind that, if she walked into the room, would immediately become the center of attention. I’d get turned off if a girl was swell-headed, or a brat.”-Tonyboy, 32 , President, Specialist Services Corporation

“I get intimidated by someone who is better off (has a higher living standard) than I am I get turned off by a girl who’s loud and is a lousy dresser. And of course, bad breath. And ugly feet!”- J.M., 25, Stockbroker

“Some women have this superior attitude towards men. But they’re wrong! Everybody’s equal. What turns me off about women? The same thing! It just turns me off when women feel they are in a position to judge what is wrong or right or if one is good or bad or funny or shitty. I think both men and women have the right to those judgments’.”-Charlie, 23, Artist and Businessman

“I guess I’d get intimidated if she had a strong character. What would completely turn me off? If she is bitchy.”- Bootsie, 26, Caterer

“If a guy is very serious about courting a girl, nothing would intimidate him.”Paolo, 25, Account Executive

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But seriously, don’t be discouraged – the qualities that intimidate men are usually the qualities that attract them as well. As for the turn-offs, just consider that it might be time to get rid of a bad habit or hang-up. But if you happen to like yourself exactly the way you are, know that a turn-off for one guy may be a fetish for another. In that case, your motto should be: Love me, love my feet (or whatever). In desperate times, however, it wouldn’t hurt to invest in a pedicure.

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Money versus Happiness

By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 5 of August , 2009 at 3:46 pm

Connie Glaser and Barbara Smalley will tell you how women find the soul of success, in this book ‘When Money Isn’t Enough.’
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This book is about successful women who made it to the top of their game. But after bagging the promotion and the prize money, they quit – because they realized that there are other things in life that are more important than the four corner of thier office. Such as time with the family, more creative space for a favorite hobby, or a career shift to help the lesser privileged. The move cost them, in terms of a pay cut, a demotion, and sometimes even friendships. It’s not politically correct for women achievers in the US to turn down the next step up; it just might send the wrong signal to the male-dominated corporate leadership that women just can’t cut in the big time. Still, the women in these stories followed their hearts and are happier for it.

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