By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 26 of August , 2009 at 8:30 am
Girls, did you think you’ve got your date all figured out? Well, don’t be too sure!
Movie time – you are on your first date, and the cinema gets cold. You tell him you’re getting chilly, and he lends you his jacket.
You’re thinking: “he’s being such a gentleman; he’s such a sweet guy.”
On the other hands: so many things can be going on his head. First of all, he’s probably feeling unpleasantly cold himself. If you think about it, he didn’t really have a choice. Not giving you his jacket after you told him you were feeling cold would have made him a total pig. He could also be hoping that you don’t take his actions the wrong way. This being the first date, he may still be unsure about his feelings for you. He could even be a bit worried that you interpret this as a romantic gesture.
Eye to eye moment – during a boring class, you happen to glance at that special guy and catch him staring at you. You lose consciousness for half a second, and when you look again, he’s pretending to look straight at the teacher.
You’re feeling: tingles up your spine as that corny yet exciting romantic rush takes over your mind.
On the other hand: he’s most probably in a state of panic. Guys hate losing their smooth and suave style by getting caught staring at that special girl in the middle of the day. It turns their self-perception from a cool and stylish James Bond to a silly little boy with a crush on a girl. Indeed, something like this makes them feel a bit embarrassed and may cause them to be uncomfortable for quite a while.
On the phone – you call him on his cell while he is with friends. He talks to you in the most stone-cold, emotionless tone ever. You try to fight it with the sweetest of sweet talks, but all you get is a distant, “I’ll call you later.”
You’re thinking: “he is so mean! He’d better be begging for forgiveness when he calls me later!”
On the other hand: he is most probably just as upset by what happened. A guy can talk to you in goo-goos and gah-gahs. He can give you the corniest food related pet names. He will make those silly kissing sounds and even say good night to your teddy bear. How ever, in front of the boys, he is one tough guy! Trying to make him behave like his normally sweet self while in their company is like forcing the president to do the Macarena on TV.
The dinner date – there’s one last piece of your shared main course (a piece you’d be too embarrassed to get). Without asking you, he gets it with his fork, puts it on his plate, and starts eating it.
You’re thinking: “how rude! Didn’t his parents teach him any manners? This is the worst date ever!”
On the other hand: your date could be so glad he can go out and feel so comfortable with someone like you. Yes, guys will be guys, and they will always love their food. If it were an uptight and uncomfortable put-your-best-foot-forward kind of date, he would surely have offered you that last piece, or maybe even left it there untouched. Here’ however, he is obviously so comfortable around you that it makes him feel he can let his guard down and simply be himself. And that’s a good thing, trust us.
The good night kiss – your date drives you home. When his car stops in front of your house, you lean over to give him a friendly beso (kiss) on the cheek. Unexpectedly, he turns to you and kisses you on the lips.
You’re thinking: “what the…? That was inappropriate!”
On the other hand: he may think he just made the smoothest maneuver of all time. He starts seeing himself as one of those charming guys in American TV series he secretly likes to watch, and begins to think that he’s got you figured out. Although he may be a bit nervous and uncertain, he will not admit this to you or to himself. He will continue to feel proud of that “big kiss!”
By Blue Rose on Monday, 24 of August , 2009 at 8:00 pm
When love ages, the romance gets blemished. This is one hasty generalization among ladies, especially those who, after years of relationship with their boyfriends or husbands, feel that their partner’s eyes have lost their shine. Some would even get a fit of nostalgia: comparing today to back when the guy was courting them; some would even start demanding answers to questions like “Why don’t you give me flowers anymore?”
Really, aren’t we guys big fans of long-term relationships? Can it be helped? Can you still do anything about it? Well here are the big news ladies: Yes, you can…
1. Wake up kiss – love is never dead; in most cases it’s just “sleeping”. And as such is the case, we need a little nudging from you. No need to push us over the edge of the bed, though – what we need is a gentle stroke and a sweet voice to open our eyes. We need you to complain less and do things a woman really in love would do to revive the relationship, like the things listed next until 7. Think them over, and somewhere you might find the missing link.
2. Soft whispers – okay, we may not always read your mind, or do the things you like us to do. We understand if you feel bad about this. But instead of complaining, why not try talking to us in a lighthearted manner? Things get straight into our head when they are said gently. That’s a fact.
3. Sweet toe to toe massage – at the end of a busy day, nothing beats getting a good massage. In fact, we’ll be happy about a reciprocal foot spa, while we pretend to massage your tootsies when what we’re really doings is tickling you plus satisfying our foot fetish. Feeling your touch on our skin does not only make us feel deeply relaxed and at peace, it draws us closer together. (And we presume this is what it does to you, too!)
4. Food for the heart – you know what they say about the stomach being the quickest way to a man’s heart. Now keep this in mind: good food keeps a man in good mood. Just imagine, then, what really good food with your personal touch does to both of us! You won’t need to prepare the dessert because that would be you!
5. Reminisce the past – put on your sexiest dress, play that long forgotten theme song, and dance with us like its prom night all over again. This especially works if you were our prom date then. If not, this might make us wish you were our prom date back then.
6. Appreciate our passion – showing us that you have at least a vague understanding of the things we are interested in, such as basketball, football or rock music, makes us feel more comfortable wit the relationship. You don’t have to memorize every basketball team or David Bowie’s entire album, though. Once in a while, a few well-placed inquiries us to who won or who made a scene-stealing move, is enough for us to engage you in a new kind of conversation. Oh, we’ll fake interest in your newest Manolo Blahnik acquisition, too, just to make you know we believe in justice.
7. Take care of yourself – true, we sometimes get far from amused when you act as if you’re our younger sister, being pa-cute and all, instead of our lady love. But we also love it when you don’t take yourself too seriously, or too maturely. It doesn’t hurt to feel young as long as you don’t suddenly go back to your teenage identity crisis days.
And please, don’t forget your looks. Seeing you making an effort to look beautiful for us are already a good sign, what more seeing other men get envious for the kind of lady that we have. So what if love is aging? The lady we love is not! And if you’re not sure how, we will give you an unsolicited advice: turn to beauty experts. In our opinion, all their research labs are meant to churn our beauty breakthrough after breakthrough…so that all we hombres need to do is admire the results on you.
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 19 of August , 2009 at 4:27 pm
The secret of a long marriage was simple for Robert and Elizabeth Charlton. Every time he cheated on his wife he would make it up by buying her a gift.
The remarkably forgiving Mrs. Charlton wasn’t satisfied with mere flowers, however.
Instead, she acquired diamond jewelry whenever her wealthy husband strayed – and it seems they both notched up quite a collection in their 26 years together.
While Mr. Charlton enjoyed the opportunities offered to a businessman running two nightclubs and an underwear packing business, his wife is said to have equally cherished the necklaces, earrings, bracelets and rings the errant entrepreneur bought her.
The collection of 43 jewelry items in Mrs. Charlton’s jewelry box was passed on to their only daughter and has now sold for nearly £300,000.
The most expensive item was a necklace made up of 54 diamonds, thought to have been bought from Carrington and Co of Regent Street, which was auctioned for £60,000.
A large pendant in the shape of a diamond and a brooch each went for £53,000 and a chunky diamond solitaire ring sold for £23,000.
A pair of drop earrings went for £22,000 while a gold bangle with nine diamonds fetched £25,000, including the auctioneer’s cut.
According to the family the couple’s arrangement meant their marriage thrived from when they wed in 1948 until Mr. Charlton died, aged 63, in 1974.
Clare Durham, of auctioneers Woolley and Wallis of Salisbury, Wiltshire, said: ‘It would seem that any time Mr. Charlton was naughty and played away he bought his wife a nice bit of jewelry to keep her sweet.
‘She was well aware of what was going on – he cheated on her a lot. It may have been more than 43 times, because the families have kept some of the pieces, or it may have been less.
‘Certainly the best, most expensive pieces were bought when he played away. His daughter was fully aware of what was going on at the time and the family has told us the story – it was no secret to anyone.
It is not clear if Mr. Charlton had been married before but he had an 11-year-old daughter, Marie, when he wed Elizabeth and she took the girl as her own. When Mrs. Charlton died in 2006, aged 90, she left the collection of jewelry to Marie.
The seller has not commented on her decision to sell the heirlooms, but did provide the auctioneers with plenty of her parents’ life history.
Of the jewelry sold by her firm, she said: ‘It is a beautiful collection of fine diamond jewelry. There were 43 items in total and most of it dates back to the late Victorian and early Edwardian period.
‘It would have been antique when it was bought in the 1950s and 1960s. The standout piece is definitely the necklace which is just beautiful.’ (mailonline)
By Blue Rose on Saturday, 15 of August , 2009 at 4:00 am
Something drew my attention, this amazing “Are You Ready for Marriage?” quiz from a 1970 Girls’ Romances. It’s actually pretty reasonable, for a life-decision quiz. The bad news: “Are You Qualified for Marriage?” Answer the questions on your own to know.
1. If he can’t support you, do you earn enough to live comfortably without either family’s help?
- Define “comfortably.” Also, define “help,” “family,” and “enough.”
2. Is there enough money in the bank — in his account, yours, a joint bank account – to meet any emergency? If not, how long will it be before enough funds are available?
-Define “emergency.” Ok, then: Late middle age, if there’s no inflation. With inflation, never.
3. With rentals on the increase, can you afford quarters that you are accustomed to?
-YES! (Granted, I’m accustomed to roaches, mice, and no AC, but really who isn’t these days?)
4. Have either of you a source from which to borrow money should the need arrive?
-Does the bank count? Cause if so, I’m giving that a YES.
5. Rather than estimate roughly how much your joint expenses will be, have you written down, as precisely as possible, where and how your income will be spent, including not only food, clothing and shelter, but such nitty-gritty details as your facial makeup, stockings, accessories, his shaving cream and blades, laundry, toothpaste, and all the other essentials?
- BO-RING! Does writing “a lot” down count? (In good news, my stocking budget is an affordable $0.)
6. Are you sacrificing anything for marriage – school, a career, giving up certain friends?
- NO. See #1. Wait, is this supposed to be a YES?
7. Have you given up certain things because he dislikes them, and has he done the same?
I think “sleeping with other people” qualifies, yes?
8. Have you ever done something together like working to complete a chore at work or school, shoveled snow or mowed the lawn, painted a room, or combined your monies to buy something?
-Heck, YES! We combined monies for a Rollo only yesterday! And haven’t they been following? We don’t have a lawn.
9. Do you associate with married friends your own ages?
-A couple of our friends are thinking about getting married before she has the baby. Sometimes we see them for drinks – okay, not that much since she got pregnant, I guess. But only because she hasn’t been answering our emails. Whatever, her mom’s in town, I know that’s stressful. She’s got a few years on us, but we’re talking ballpark, right?
10. Do you argue often over trifling matters? And do either of you insist on being right?
-Okay, so yesterday he refused to pet a dog because he bites his nails compulsively, and this kind of became a thing because I was like, is it worth offending my parent’s neighbor because you’re so neurotic and infantile? Why don’t you just wear a Hazmat suit, Howard Hughes?
11. Do you love him less after a scrap, or do you continue to love him just as much?
-Well, he agreed on the dog thing, so we’re good.
12. Do you give up your friends that he dislikes?
-Um, just because I used to date someone and almost married him before you, doesn’t mean he isn’t awesome!
13. Even if it hurts him, and puts you in a bad light, can you tell him the truth?
-About what? No, really, what is this getting at? That that one friend of his is super-creepy and really skived me out when I ran into him on the street and he started talking about socks? Cause we handled that.
14. Do you consult your mother, an older sister, or a friend when you have a problem?
-Well, that’s kind of what we pay a shrink for. Where do you think the stocking budget’s going?
15. Can you make a decision and hold to it in spite of criticism of older people?
-You mean that bum on the corner who insulted my new shoes? It hurt, but I’m still wearing them – sometimes.
16. Can you defy your mother’s and/or father’s wishes and stick to it, whether it’s an important or trifling matter?
-Hell, given her druthers, my mom would take me off meds! So, yeah. But look, she hates the big glasses so much, sometimes it’s just not worth it for one dinner. Isn’t compromise adult, too?
17. Are you uncomfortable being alone at night if he has to go out of town on business or goes bowling with the boys or must train for two weeks during the summer with his military or naval service unit?
And whether we’re talking about the creepy friend with the socks.
20. Can you ignore your own bad mood to pull him out of his?
-If by “ignore” you mean “treat with pudding,” then, YES.
21. Can you prepare all of his favorite dishes?
-Well, I’m sure I could prepare that hippy-dippy brown rice-tofu thing he’s so into, but that doesn’t mean I will. So, YES?
22. Do you retain leftovers from your meals know how to prepare them attractively?
-Well, I take a relativist’s approach to “attractiveness.”
23. Can you sew his socks, iron his shirts, press his trousers, mind ferrying his clothes back and forth from the tailor and laundry, his shoes from the cobbler?
-If I got to take an actual “ferry,” I would do this. So I’m giving myself a YES.
24. Have you ever decorated and furnished a room?
-Funny you should ask: I just bought the freakiest antique doll, which I placed under a jar on the mantelpiece. Wow, I’m on a roll!
25. Do you insist that he adhere to your tastes, styles, and colors?
-Yes. Moving on. Purple is for wizards and Lisa Frank.
26. Are you efficient in housekeeping – sweeping, dusting, polishing, washing windows, even to such details as cleaning the blinds and tidying the closet?
-If by “efficient”, do they mean, it doesn’t take up a disproportionate amount of my time? Cause if so, that’s a YES.
27. Are you willing to get up every morning to prepare his breakfast and see him off to work as well as taking care of yourself before going to business or school?
-”Going to business” in the next room really facilitates this. And I mean, he’s welcome to some of the coffee.
28. Has he ever seen you when you’re aware that you don’t look your best – your face smeared with facial cream, hair in curlers or bundled up in a bandanna, or showing the effects of a bad cold, or made dirty from housecleaning?
-Well, of course not.
29. Have you ever seen him when he’s not at his best – in need of a shave, a haircut, un-pressed apparel, showing the effects of a cold, wearing old clothes to putter around the house?
-You know, I really prefer to avoid people who show “the effects of a cold.” It sounds like said people really need a tissue.
30. Have you considered that you will be married to this man, that you will spend the rest of your life with him until deaths do you part?
- Whoa, whoa, whoa. Can we get back to the china pattern now, please?
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 12 of August , 2009 at 11:19 pm
Women just don’t like ex-girlfriends.
Not because we’re insecure, it’s just they’re a part of your history we don’t want to know about. Especially when we’ve been together for seven years.
My friends know everything.
Sex, presents, habits… everything.
We’re not jealous of your female friends, we’re wary of them.
And we’re wary because we don’t know what they want.
Women can tell a player.
He’s bloody stupid if he thinks we can’t..
Every couple needs time apart.
If you don’t feel comfortable with the idea of your girlfriend going out without meeting someone else you’re too needy. Back off.
We expect you to reply to texts straight away,
But we don’t have to get straight back to you. That’s the game.
Compliment my eyes, my lips or even my arms, but not my breasts.
No matter what we are wearing it doesn’t impress. It embarrasses.
You can’t come back from cheating.
It’s the worst thing a man can do to a woman.
Humor, cooking, and then massage.
That’s my ranking.
A man can come back from one sexual disaster, but not two.
No way. We’ll accept nerves as an excuse for the first time, but there’s no reason to do it badly again.
Compliment a woman too suavely and it seems cheesy.
Do it sheepishly – like you’ve mustered up the courage to say something – and we think it’s lovely.
If I’m crying you must hug me.
There’s nothing worse than a man standing uncomfortably while you’re upset. Be there for me.
There is no such thing as women’s intuition.
You’re just not a very good liar.
My sister had ‘eye sex’ last night.
Its prolonged eye contact with a stranger and it shows how important eye contact is.
Flatulence isn’t funny.
It’s disgusting, but burping is worse. It’s unnecessary. It’s rude. It says: “Well, I don’t give a shit.”
On first dates
We may look confident, but it’s a front. We’re horrendously insecure, so you need to take control. Be cool, laid-back, make us feel at ease.
Women like to be protected.
I don’t mean fight anyone who looks at us – that’s not attractive. I mean make us feel like you could knock someone out should the need occur.
Hairy men have got to think about waxing.
Women keep their body hair under control. You should too. It’s going to be more pleasant for both of us.
I can get ready in ten minutes.
You should be able to, too. There’s nothing worse than a man who takes too much time pampering. Peacocks have had their time.
Flowers aren’t naff.
They’re a true old-fashioned romantic gesture.
It’s not that we’re never wrong.
It’s that you don’t get what we’re telling you.
By Blue Rose on Monday, 10 of August , 2009 at 2:18 pm
Welcome ladies, may inform you that Men’s Health has compiled 41 Ways To Make A Woman Swoon, a list of stupid romantic moves to melt your heart. Get your smelling salts ready, because I feel a case of the vapors coming on!
As is typically the case when it comes to dumb Men’s Health lists, this particular article was written by a woman. I’m guessing that this is all part of a magazine exchange program that allows the douches men on earth to give their love advice in magazines like Cosmopolitan: “You send over your most stereotypical bullshit, and we’ll send over ours!” It’s a match made in generalization heaven. Let’s take a look at a few of the romantic “moves” recommended to sweep a gal off her feet:
6. “Grasp her hand when a scantily dressed, beautiful woman walks by.”
Oh goodness yes! Because she needs to be protected from those skanky Death Eaters who will surely ruin your relationship with a sassy glance or lack of pants!
16. “Undress her and put her to bed when she falls asleep in the car.”
Oh, this isn’t creepy at all. I know when I fall asleep, I love waking up without my clothes on, in bed, not knowing how I got there. Does this move come with a rookie nightcap, or are we saving that romance for Valentine’s Day?
28. “Give her jewelry.”
Buy her shit! She’ll be yours in no time. Women are so easy, bro!
26. “Hug her when she gets jealous. Hug her hard.”
Yes, suffocate her with the hug of judgment. That will teach her to get jealous.
40. “Kiss her hand in front of your most die-hard bachelor buddies.”
Please don’t do this. Not every woman just stepped out of She’s All That. Please keep your Cinderella fantasies to yourself. You’re only going to embarrass yourself, and us, if you pull this “look at what an obvious romantic gentleman” showmanship in front of your friends.
32. “In the middle of a conversation, tell her you love her.”
That’ll shut her up! What could she possibly have to say about health care reform? Just tell her you love her mid-sentence and make her swooooooon.
5. “Put your arm around her when you introduce her to your friends and family.”
You know, to let them know that you own her now.
7. “Call her when you’re feeling sad.”
Mmm, nothing says “romance” like a 45 minute conversation with your crying boyfriend. Unless you mean “swoon” as in “pass out with intolerable sadness,” I think we can leave this one off of the romance checklist.
19. “When she’s feeling insecure, stare into her eyes and tell her there is no one in the world that could be as right for you as she is.”
Because as long as she’s good enough for a man, it doesn’t matter if she’s good enough for herself. Someone should base a magazine around this concept!
41 Ways To Make A Woman Swoon [Men's Health]
Source; Jezebel.com
By Blue Rose on Sunday, 9 of August , 2009 at 2:44 pm
We wish girls knew, but we never say.
1. “Dirty texts are amazing.”
2. “Approaching girls in bars terrifies us. It sort of feels like a no win situation. Like, we know we’re already padding upstream because she assumes, ‘Oh, he thinks I’m cute. I win.’ And, where does that leave us?”
3. “We’re absolutely scared shitless of your wrath.”
4. “My God!” ‘I don’t know if I can hold that thing! And ‘Baby, I don’t have three hands!’ all work pretty well, too.”
5. “Wow, you look so skinny!” is not a compliment. Having a good body means actually having something there.”
6. “No matter how big we are – and, yes, I’m referring to that area – it’s best to assume we have a Napoleon complex. We’d love it if you threw in a ‘Damn, that’s huge!’ every now and then.
7. “A white wife-beater tank top, tight jeans, and a pair of heels drive us nuts. A black bra and you’re asking for trouble.”
8. “We hate it when you say ‘I don’t know. What do you want to do?’ Guys have to do most of the heavy lifting in terms of inviting and picking the perfect place to go to dinner. Give us a break once in a while and decide what to do on a date. We’re still going to end up driving.”
9. “A man becomes a mama’s boy any time he’s sick. And, any time he’s really hungry.”
10. “When we’re having a guy’s night out, we’re really not doing much of anything at all. We basically just put each other down, then laugh at each other, then put each other down…”
By Blue Rose on Friday, 7 of August , 2009 at 4:09 pm
Here’s a quiz for you to know if you’re a guy getter or not.
1. In line for the concession stand at a concert, you notice a cute guy in front of you. What do you do?
- a. Say, “Wow”, this is a long line. Lucky for me, I’m in good company.”
- b. Squeak out a “hi” that probably gets drowned out by the music.
- c. Stick 500 bucks in his back pocket and tell him the drinks are on you.
2. Are you usually comfortable with making the first move on a man?
- a. Um, does Paris Hilton like to gossip?
- b. Yes, but you always try to gauge his interest before making a play.
- c. About as comfortable as you are at the gyne!
3. At the gym, you spot a guy with a ripped body in the weight room. You:
- a. Hightail it to the locker room and vow to chat him up after you’ve taken a shower and put on some makeup.
- b. Say, “Hey there, would you mind showing me how to use that machine when you’re done with your sets?”
- c. Grab his biceps and exclaim, “Wow! Someone’s working out!”
4. How do you use your eyes when you want to reel in a man who interests you?
- a. Look toward him, then away, then at your shoes.
- b. Eye contact is a complete waste of time. You prefer to go the route of “accidental” grazing.
- c. Lock in his gaze, glance away, and then glance back flirtatiously.
5. You’ve fallen for a close guy friend. You:
- a. Comment that a mutual pal said the two of you would make a cute couple and see how he reacts.
- b. Kiss him and profess your love when you’re both tipsy.
- c. Stay silent. Why risk losing a friendship?
Scoring: 1. a-1, b-0, c-2; 2. a-2, b-1, c-0; 3. a-0, b-1, c-2; 4. a-0, b-2, c-1; 5. a-1, b-2, c-0
0 to 3 points- Flirty Fraidy Cat
You may think your M.O. is uber chill, but the truth is, making barely noticeable overtures shows you’re frozen in fear of rejection. Before heading out for the night, tap into your inner goddess by listening to sultry songs. Then, when you spot a guy you’re attracted to, “jump in with a smile and compliment to get the ball rolling”. Simply putting yourself out there is all it takes to start a connection.
4 to 6 points – Stellar Seductress
Be relying on confidence and a playful attitude – not your body – as bait, you’re alluring in more than just a physical sense. You also have a knack for knowing which men are good for flirting practice (a hot guy in a drink line) or the full-court press (a torpe pal who needs prodding). To push the envelop even further, “speak more softly when you want to hook a guy so he has to lean in to you.” advises Eve Marx, author of Read my hips.
7 to 10 points – Man Magnet
You’re so skilled in attracting a guy; your body practically has a gravitational pull. But sometimes – make that much of the time – you come on too strong. “Forcing yourself on a guy may lead to a hook up, but ultimately, it won’t be fulfilling,” says clinical psychologist Jud Kuriansky, PhD. “Instead recognize the power in restraint.” Ask a candid friend if your approach is too extreme, says Kuriansky. When you selectively deploy flirty moves, you draw guys looking for more than a fleeting night.
(Source: Cosmo magazine)
