Hello hello everybody! I’m back, just like McArthur said ”I Shall Return”, and here I am!

It’s been quite long since I had a vacation from writing, well guys the reason is I’ve been married, you can’t blame me from being away hehehe… but it’s good to be back in the circle again and here I am!

Well first of all, I want to share my precious moments from the start of proposing… ayayayyy… hehehe, planning and the grand day of my life, and of course I almost forgot the ”honeymoon”, hehehe… so hold on tight and prepare to explore my married life. Well its a quite long story, but I will make it short so you guys will not be bored.

Chapter 1- Proposing

Once upon a time, there was a princess who live in a castle far far away, ops! Sorry it’s not Shrek and Fiona, hehehe…

Ok, I meet this guy in one of the dating site found in the Internet, hey it’s the modern day of looking for your new partner in life you know. Well we catch up so fast, but he is in Europe and I am in the Philippines. Distance is not a hindrance for the person who is in-love. So for short he visited me in the Philippines, we celebrated Christmas and New Year together. Then again came back in the Philippines in February for his birthday, then we travel twice to Bangkok, Thailand in 1 year,first just 10 days then second is whole month holiday, what a holiday!

Later in September I went to Norway in Europe to visit him,such a nice country, but not so nice weather, I mean it’s very cold and snowing, well I have seen snow for the first time in life,I’m great full for that.

We go back to proposing, how did he propose marriage on me? Well we are in Bangkok, Thailand that time, we are having our 1 month holiday there. We decided to have dinner in Sky Hotel, the tallest hotel in Bangkok, we ate, talked and tour around the 83^rd floor, then we went up to the revolving deck on top of 85^th floor, it was very nice, you can see the whole Bangkok City.

Hmmmm… while I was enjoying my sight seeing, he start talking about marriage and plan about it, I am just listening, then he…

]]> http://myblueheart.org/filipina/i-shall-return.html/feed 0 http://myblueheart.org/filipina/one-last-cry.html http://myblueheart.org/filipina/one-last-cry.html#comments Wed, 03 Mar 2010 16:33:14 +0000 Blue Rose http://myblueheart.org/?p=1533 More »]]> Sometimes we thought love don’t exist, and most of all we thought it is not meant for us. So we end up not believing in love.

After all the pains and heartaches that we encounter and suffered, we thought that there will never be a happy ending for us. We keep the bad memories into our hearts and minds, trying to remember it when we are starting to find someone, so then we never give ourselves a chance to fall again as we are reminiscing the past.

We are afraid that it will happen again, it will cause us more heartaches, memories just keep on coming like a ghost of our life.

We never give a better thought of that, never knowing that the past and bad memories are the one that can heal our broken heart and shatered dreams. Keep remembering them, but not to get us hurt again, but to make us strong and fight for what is really meant for us.

All has a chance to love and be love, to make us happy and to build our dreams again. All has bad and good memories, but it will be up to us on how memories can help us rebuild our life and future.

Be strong, believe in yourself, never give up, and most of all ”DON’T BE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE AGAIN”.

Just like what this song is telling us:

One Last Cry
My shattered dreams and broken heart
Are mending on the shelf
I saw you holding hands, standing close to someone else
Now I sit all alone wishing all my feeling was gone
I gave my best to you, nothing for me to do
But have one last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind this time
Stop living a lie
I guess I’m down to my last cry
Cry……
I was here, you were there
Guess we never could agree
While the sun shines on you
I need some love to rain on me
Still I sit all alone, wishing all my feeling was gone
Gotta get over you, nothing for me to do
But have one last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind this time
Stop living a lie
I know I gotta be strong
Cause round me life goes on and on and on
And on…..
I’m gonna dry my eyes
Right after I had my
One last cry
Chorus:
One last cry, before I leave it all behind
I’ve gotta put you outta my mind for the very last time
Been living a lie
I guess I’m down
I guess I’m down
I guess I’m down…
To my last cry…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz-NhGanOAE

Have you ever felt that there is something missing in your relationship?

You have family that loves you, you have work that provides everything you need to survive, you have friends that can be there for you when you need them, except if they are busy, you have boyfriend girlfriend or husband/wife that adores you, if they adores you.

If they adores you? What does it mean? Yah, you have boyfriend/husband, girlfriend/wife but do you feel that they love you or even have just a little feelings for you not just the word ‘I Like You’.

Yah, you are being praised when you did something really good that he/she likes, but what do you feel when you are being compared to somebody else that has been in his/her life?

Does it feel like a sharp dagger that struck into your chest?

You are happy being with him/her and can be with him/her for the rest of your life, but does he/she feel the same?

You accept him/her as what he/she is, everything that connects in his/her life, but do you feel that you are still being ignored, set aside?

There is a line that maybe adapted in this situation, ‘I was never your partner, I’m just your wife/husband’. Does it applies in your life?

Have you figured out what is missing?

Respect. Acceptance. Love. Feelings.

The Male Non-Negotiable

• “Trust is a topmost factor in a relationship, I was going out with someone I really liked before, but she already had a boyfriend. It didn’t bother me at first that she had to keep lying to her boyfriend whenever we were together – until I found out that she was doing the same thing to me. That was the real deal breaker. She turned out to be someone I would have a hard tie loving because I couldn’t trust her.” – Eric 27, restaurant manager

• “I had an ex-girlfriend who had a very tough time making her mind up about anything. And if she did decide on something, she would often change her mind at the most annoying of times. Even if she didn’t particularly enjoy the idea of something she’d say’ up to you,’ keep it to herself, and act sullen after, leaving me to wonder why. It quickly got quite frustrating. Everything would have been fine if she had only been a bit more decisive about things and more vocal with her opinions. For me, saying what’s on your mind is definitely better.” – Troy 27, accountant

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• “Be open minded, understanding, and don’t make up stories based on your jealous frenzy. I once had an ex who would immediately suspect that I was flirting with a girl just because I was having a good conversation with her. Her baseless suspicions made me feel unnecessarily insecure whenever a girl talked to me. In the end, I couldn’t stand her pretty jealousy, so I broke up with her.” – Jack 32, executive manager

• “Long distance relationships are usually painful and upsetting, but sometimes a few guys come along that are actually willing to wait. Not all guys are dumb and insensitive. Remember that and maybe you’ll learn to give someone decent a fair chance next time.” – Eddie 30, research analyst

• “Some girls are so possessive and jealous. Give your guys some space and leave us alone once in awhile! We’ll end up coming back to you more often than you’d think.” – Robbie 28, IT analyst

Braving the Breakup

• “For goodness’s sake, don’t break up with a guy through text or email! Have the maturity and decency to break up with him face to face.” – Cholo 26, law student

• “When guys bail, we often have doubts about it. But let us deal with it on our own. We’ll beg you back when we finally realize we’ve lost you for real. That time, we’ll be so into the chase all over again.” – Robert 28, artist

• “When relationships are cut, they should be cut cleanly. There’s no use in going back to your ex to find what went wrong. A person has to find that out for his or her own self. Allot time to heal and do some self-reflection.” – Froilan 29, nurse

• “I’m not supposed to spill this out, but really, the best way to get back at someone who broke your heart is to be fine without him. When the girl we broke up with seems super fine, it affects our ego and we think,’Aba! Why in the world is she okay without me?” – Devy 30, chef

• “Don’t stay with your boyfriend just because you’re afraid to hurt him. If the feeling’s no longer there or you’re beginning to think about other guys, end your relationship right away. Be fair to your clueless boyfriend and to yourself..” – Albert 23, student

• “Even if we did the breaking up, we still second guess our decision. When you start begging us to stay. Our decision to leave just becomes more justified.” – Jerry 27, computer technologist

- “Do women really have to raise their voices to get their points across? Contrary to popular belief, men do listen and they’re easy to talk to – as long as they’re not being yelled at. Otherwise, they tune out.” – Hans, 28, artist

- “My ex-girlfriend would shower me with kisses whenever I got upset with her. It usually worked and my heart would soften. But because we never really talked about our issues and only resolved them physically, our communication wasn’t open and issues kept resurfacing because there was no proper discussion.” – Richard, 32, manager

-“Stop whining, nagging, screaming, and complaining about everything because it’s really irritating when a girl does these things if a girl has something on her mind, she should talk to her boyfriend nicely. Guys don’t like to fight. I would have preferred it if my ex appreciated all the things that I did for her instead of having complained all the time.” – Dennis, 30, businessman

Syncing up in the sack

-“I dated a single mom who was five years older than me and had three kids. In bed, we never had more than one round lovemaking. When she was satisfied, that was it. After two years she told me she didn’t have the energy for sex anymore and suggested I find a younger woman. I did – much to her regret.” – Francis, 27, singer

-“If you expect your boyfriend to go down you, please wash up first. Also, a little trimming wouldn’t hurt.” – Trevor, 28, racer

-“Be a bit more assertive in bed. If your lover isn’t performing up to par, tell him how he can improve. Be specific and don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to hurt his ego. In the end, if he sees you’re enjoying, that’s a big ego boost for him. Encourage him tot el you also how you can be a better lover.” – Ben, 26, marketing manager

Matching your fundamentals

-“I’m a very family-oriented guy. I need a girl who understands that I will always be involved with my family. Sometimes I’ll need to drop a prior engagement with my girl to attend to family matters and an old girlfriend couldn’t understand that. She ended up feeling neglected and alone but didn’t know what else to do. As far as I knew, blood was thicker than water.” – Markus, 34, restaurateur

-“You know how people say that you’re supposed to be able to depend on each other? Well, there’s such a thing as being too dependent…” – Larry, 29, IT engineer

-“My ex-girlfriend had halitosis and it really put me off, but I couldn’t tell her. There were times she’d want to cuddle, like when we were watching a movie, and it killed me because her breath just smelled too much like spoiled saliva. When my own mother noticed her bad breath, I thought it was time to break it off. I wanted a girl whom I could proudly show off and be with, not one who repelled me – and my family and friends – physically.” – Garry, 33, teacher

You need not wish an ex-boyfriend ill. Instead, make better use of your time and emotions by taking advantage of bitter breakups and dude dramas – and coming out the truly better half.

It didn’t work out. Now what? Whether your boyfriend ducked out or you called it quits, truth is, you can learn a thing or two from each failed relationship. Ultimately, it’s you – because you have full control over how your next relationship can be better. Here, we help you pick up self-improvement cues from your ex-boyfriend’s raves and rants. Listen closely and learn how to makeover your girlfriend style and ready yourself for Mr. Next.

What Makes You Girlfriend Material

- “Having ambition and goals is a big turn-on for guys. Men may base their first impressions on women’s looks or sense of humor, but we really do looks for hints as to how a woman’s personality will pan out in the long run. Will she be dependable, or will she just drag a man down?” – Sandy, 32, manager

- “A girl should go out with someone who’s more like her. I think my ex was a bit too aggressive and neurotic for me while I was laidback and lazy. We both tried to compromise by becoming more like the other person. That led a lot of tension and unneeded resentment.” – Nathan, 27, call center agent

- “Pretty girls are used to being chased by guys. So when they get into a serious relationship, they forget that they have to sacrifice all the fun flirtations of the single life. If one man adoring her isn’t enough, then she should just stay single.” – Teddy, 22, student

- “Many girls take nice guys for granted. And when the jerks they end up with start breaking their hearts, they wonder what happened! Those girls should screw their heads on straight and see that nice guys are here to stay – for the long haul!” – Francis, 30, Engineer

- “Though the sweet, mahinhin type is appealing for many guys, we don’t particularly want to have a partner who’s as meek as a worm (read: no backbone). On a first date, girls should tell guys where they’d like to go or what they’d like to eat, and be open to their date’s suggestions as well. Guys like girls who are confident, but not too bossy.” – Patrick, 26, executive manager

Managing Relationship Expectations

- “My ex would get infuriated with me whenever I forgot to text her, ‘Good night. I love you’ before going to bed. If I didn’t text her, I would wake up with at least 10 text messages in my mobile phone – all from her, telling me what an inconsiderate ass I was. The issue got really old very quickly and I couldn’t stand her insecurity anymore, so I dumped her.” – Mel, 33, accountant

- “I like a woman who has no problem with ‘guy time.’ My friends will always be a part of my life. A woman can’t replace then and she certainly can’t make me choose between her and them.” – Paulo, 27, teacher

- “I can’t stand it when girls get so clingy. They start whining about being alone and hopeless without me at their beck and call all day long. My ex-girlfriend used to do that and I ended up leaving her because she just didn’t understand. I have my own life and if a girl can’t handle that, then we aren’t meant.” – Dan, 29, banker

-“My ex had a split Jekyll and Hyde personality when it came to showing affection. She was the sweetest, most loving girl who would shower me with kisses and give me tight embraces – but only when we were alone. In public, she was as stiff and cold as a corpse. I would simply hold her hand and she would reject me. I didn’t like the fact that I couldn’t show to the world how much I adore my girl. It eventually turned me off.” – Randy, 30, graphic artist

There are still more coming’ up, stick with me and you will surely know everything that man’s thinking about their girlfriends. I’m sure you will get a lot of tips from them on how to be the best girlfriend ever, win and melt their hearts. See you.

- He talk’s trash – you may think his admission that his ex was a two-timing b#@$% is a sure sign that he’s done with her, but that degree of passion – even it it’s in the form of anger – proves that he’s still emotionally connected to her.

- He has nothing to say – once a guy has moved past a relationship, he should be able to admit it was painful or say what he learned from it. But if they were together for a stretch of time and he acts all “whatever,” it shows that he hasn’t truly grieved the relationship and come out the other side.

- They’re best friends – though plenty of exes do wind up on decent terms, being BFF with an ex right away is sketchy. If their lives are that entwined, there’s good chance one of them is holding out for a reunion.

- He absolves her – whether she bailed or he let The One get away, its bad news if he thinks his last love could do no wrong. Since his imagination has reinvented her as an angel, you’ll never be competing with her halo.

If he is showing this signs, it means he’s still hook up with his ex, and can’t move on. Help him forget her and do your best so that his mind will be yours forever. Be his best companion, best friend and play mate not just his girlfriend.

I will give you the tips on how you can be the best girlfriend.

Movie time – you are on your first date, and the cinema gets cold. You tell him you’re getting chilly, and he lends you his jacket.

You’re thinking: “he’s being such a gentleman; he’s such a sweet guy.”

On the other hands: so many things can be going on his head. First of all, he’s probably feeling unpleasantly cold himself. If you think about it, he didn’t really have a choice. Not giving you his jacket after you told him you were feeling cold would have made him a total pig. He could also be hoping that you don’t take his actions the wrong way. This being the first date, he may still be unsure about his feelings for you. He could even be a bit worried that you interpret this as a romantic gesture.

Eye to eye moment – during a boring class, you happen to glance at that special guy and catch him staring at you. You lose consciousness for half a second, and when you look again, he’s pretending to look straight at the teacher.

You’re feeling: tingles up your spine as that corny yet exciting romantic rush takes over your mind.

On the other hand: he’s most probably in a state of panic. Guys hate losing their smooth and suave style by getting caught staring at that special girl in the middle of the day. It turns their self-perception from a cool and stylish James Bond to a silly little boy with a crush on a girl. Indeed, something like this makes them feel a bit embarrassed and may cause them to be uncomfortable for quite a while.

On the phone – you call him on his cell while he is with friends. He talks to you in the most stone-cold, emotionless tone ever. You try to fight it with the sweetest of sweet talks, but all you get is a distant, “I’ll call you later.”

You’re thinking: “he is so mean! He’d better be begging for forgiveness when he calls me later!”

On the other hand: he is most probably just as upset by what happened. A guy can talk to you in goo-goos and gah-gahs. He can give you the corniest food related pet names. He will make those silly kissing sounds and even say good night to your teddy bear. How ever, in front of the boys, he is one tough guy! Trying to make him behave like his normally sweet self while in their company is like forcing the president to do the Macarena on TV.

The dinner date – there’s one last piece of your shared main course (a piece you’d be too embarrassed to get). Without asking you, he gets it with his fork, puts it on his plate, and starts eating it.

You’re thinking: “how rude! Didn’t his parents teach him any manners? This is the worst date ever!”

On the other hand: your date could be so glad he can go out and feel so comfortable with someone like you. Yes, guys will be guys, and they will always love their food. If it were an uptight and uncomfortable put-your-best-foot-forward kind of date, he would surely have offered you that last piece, or maybe even left it there untouched. Here’ however, he is obviously so comfortable around you that it makes him feel he can let his guard down and simply be himself. And that’s a good thing, trust us.

 The good night kiss – your date drives you home. When his car stops in front of your house, you lean over to give him a friendly beso (kiss) on the cheek. Unexpectedly, he turns to you and kisses you on the lips.

 You’re thinking: “what the…? That was inappropriate!”

 On the other hand: he may think he just made the smoothest maneuver of all time. He starts seeing himself as one of those charming guys in American TV series he secretly likes to watch, and begins to think that he’s got you figured out. Although he may be a bit nervous and uncertain, he will not admit this to you or to himself. He will continue to feel proud of that “big kiss!”

Really, aren’t we guys big fans of long-term relationships? Can it be helped? Can you still do anything about it? Well here are the big news ladies: Yes, you can…

1. Wake up kiss – love is never dead; in most cases it’s just “sleeping”. And as such is the case, we need a little nudging from you.  No need to push us over the edge of the bed, though – what we need is a gentle stroke and a sweet voice to open our eyes. We need you to complain less and do things a woman really in love would do to revive the relationship, like the things listed next until 7. Think them over, and somewhere you might find the missing link.

2. Soft whispers – okay, we may not always read your mind, or do the things you like us to do. We understand if you feel bad about this. But instead of complaining, why not try talking to us in a lighthearted manner? Things get straight into our head when they are said gently. That’s a fact.

3. Sweet toe to toe massage – at the end of a busy day, nothing beats getting a good massage. In fact, we’ll be happy about a reciprocal foot spa, while we pretend to massage your tootsies when what we’re really doings is tickling you plus satisfying our foot fetish. Feeling your touch on our skin does not only make us feel deeply relaxed and at peace, it draws us closer together. (And we presume this is what it does to you, too!)

4. Food for the heart – you know what they say about the stomach being the quickest way to a man’s heart. Now keep this in mind: good food keeps a man in good mood. Just imagine, then, what really good food with your personal touch does to both of us! You won’t need to prepare the dessert because that would be you!

5. Reminisce the past – put on your sexiest dress, play that long forgotten theme song, and dance with us like its prom night all over again. This especially works if you were our prom date then. If not, this might make us wish you were our prom date back then.

6. Appreciate our passion – showing us that you have at least a vague understanding of the things we are interested in, such as basketball, football or rock music, makes us feel more comfortable wit the relationship. You don’t have to memorize every basketball team or David Bowie’s entire album, though. Once in a while, a few well-placed inquiries us to who won or who made a scene-stealing move, is enough for us to engage you in a new kind of conversation. Oh, we’ll fake interest in your newest Manolo Blahnik acquisition, too, just to make you know we believe in justice.

7. Take care of yourself – true, we sometimes get far from amused when you act as if you’re our younger sister, being pa-cute and all, instead of our lady love. But we also love it when you don’t take yourself too seriously, or too maturely. It doesn’t hurt to feel young as long as you don’t suddenly go back to your teenage identity crisis days.

And please, don’t forget your looks. Seeing you making an effort to look beautiful for us are already a good sign, what more seeing other men get envious for the kind of lady that we have. So what if love is aging? The lady we love is not! And if you’re not sure how, we will give you an unsolicited advice: turn to beauty experts. In our opinion, all their research labs are meant to churn our beauty breakthrough after breakthrough…so that all we hombres need to do is admire the results on you.