Are you a sleep walker? Then wake up before you could do anything bad that you never expect will happen.

This is a true Story.

The memories are still clear, especially when the night comes, never had peacefull sleep since it happens five years ago.

It was middle of the night, Sarah(not real name) and her daughter fall asleep in her daughter’s room. The party was over and one of her husbands friend fall asleep in thier sofa, never expecting that it will happen, Danny(not real name) suddenly walk up stairs and went to her daughter’s room naked and start to have sex with her, thinking it was her husband, she tought what is he doing? Shocked and surprised registered in his mind and body when she realize it’s not his husband, she felt the force of his body while trying to have sex with her. She tried to push him and screamed, when the police arrived they found him still asleep as if nothing had happened. They took him away and left Sarah totally traumatised.

Year later, Sarah saw him again in court, he pleade not guilty in account for rape, reason? According to Danny’s, he had been asleep so had no idea what he was doing. Despite having no medical history of sleepwalking, the jury was unable to decide ‘beyond reasonable doubt’, so he escaped conviction.

This case is never an end, In the last five years, there’s been an upsurge of incidents where sleepwalking – a form of automatism that leads to unconscious behaviour – has been used as a criminal defense.

Year 2008, Harry kissed an under-age girl in her room while sleepwalking, he claimed that sleepwalking ran in his family and he was asleep at that time.

Previous year, Ralf 26 and Dennis 21, was acquitted from rape case, pleaded not guilty, as they are both sleeping when the rape of under-age girls happens. Smart ways huh! It is very hard to prove which sleepwalkers are genuine.

It is estimated that eight percent of sleepwalker are children, but that falls to less than one percent to adulthood, with the majority of sufferers being male. Sleepwalking occurs when a person is joltedawake, but areas of the brain that control thinking, planning and memory remain asleep. Family history, genetics and sleep deprivation all plays a substantial part.

A tragedy occured in july 2008 during a holiday. After being disturbed by boy racers, Edward dreamed that an intruder had broken in, but instead of fighting a burglar, he trottled his wife to death. When he woke up and realized what he’d done, he called 999 to confess. He spent ten months on prison, but after medical records proved that it was a sleep disorder, the case was dropped and Edward was found simply ‘not guilty’.

With a condition like this, the simple truth is that nobody ever truly knows. There are people who have the disorder, commit a crime and try to lean back on it to get away with it. One thing is certain, with the number of sleepwalking defence claims increasing all the time, it’s an issue that will remain.

What the law says

In English law – only people who have made a conscious decision to commit a crime can be punished. Sleepwalking is therefore often used as defence as its hard to prove and removes all responsibility.

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Easy tips generate energy, banish aches, help you sleep, make your period less hellish… and give you a sexy skip to your step. Not just for ladies but also for guys.

• To get revved up, lie on your back with your legs staight up. Bringing a fresh hit of oxygen to your brain to revive you.

• Maintain a bright white smile by avoiding sodas and iced teas made with citric, malic, and tartaric acids, since these additives erode enamel.

• Coat your lips with gloss that contains an SPF of at least 15. gloss slick sheen acts like a magnifying glass for UV rays, intensifying the damage they can do. 

• Avoid computer-induced eye strain with this exercise. Every few hours, look away from your monitor and slowly roll your eyes up and down. Repeat three times, then roll your eyes three times side to side.

• Sweeten your breath by munching on apples, carrots, or cucumbers. Like a toothbrush, these abrasive foods scrape away foul-smelling bacteria.

• Become more gregarious by placing flowers next to your bed or your desk. Lilies, roses, and other fragrant stems affect brain chemistry and can make you feel out going.

• When staying at a guys place for the first time, gargle with toothpaste or use your finger as a toothbrush rather than brushing with his. Toothbrush bristles can transmit diseases, including HPV, hepatitis A, B, and C, syphilis, and herpes.

• Check your finger nails every month to gain insight into your health. Brittleness can indicate an iron or protien deficiency, yellow nails suggest low circulation, and pale nail beds point to anemia.

• If you’re prone to pimples, fill your plate with salmon, walnuts, edamame, and canola oil, four foods packed with fatty acids that fight inflammation and keep skin glands from becoming overstimulated.

• If you’re too wired to sleep, try a few belly breaths. Place one hand on your stomach, and inhale for six seconds. Hold for three counts, then exhale slowly. Repeat six ti eight times. This simple move slows your heart rate and reduces levels of stress hormones.

• Boost your metabolism by eating almonds. They contain compound that helps you torch calories.

• Keep hair healthy by generally sporting loose styles. Always twisting strands into tight ponytails, braids, or extensions might trigger traction alopecia, an irreversable form of hair loss caused by breakage.

• When you shave, use one razor for your armpits and legs, and another for your bikini area. Doctors are inreasingly seeing staph infections along a woman’s private parts, which may be because germs that live harmlessly in your pits or on your legs get transferred via a razor to your pubes, where they become dangerous and can enter your bloodstream.

• Wine contains a disease-fighting antioxidant called resveratrol, and wines with the highest amount of it are grown in cool, rainy regions, such as muscadine from France and the fruit wines from Baguio, Philippines. Choose one of these and you’ll reap more health benifits than if you sipped wine from warm, drier regions.

• Avoid painful calf cramps by drinking a few extra glasses of water a day. Dehydration is a common cause of the cramping.

• When your feet are hurting after a night in your four-inch stilettos, reduce muscle tension quickly by sitting in a chair and crossing your legs, then writing the alphabet with each foot in the lowercase then uppercase letters.

• Keep the volume on your iPod at about the same noise level as normal conversation. Because the earbuds deliver sound into your ear, the decibel level intensified, potentially damaging your hearing over time.

• Feel happier and calm your stressful day by singing and listening to your favorite tune. Doing so boosts levels of the bonding hormone oxytocin.

• Fit into your skinny jeans by eating potassium-rich foods, such as bananas and avocados. Potassium helps flush out excess fluids from your body.

• Irregular or no-show periods may mean that you need to ease your packed schedule. Working too much and sleeping too little throws off your cycle.

]]> http://myblueheart.org/filipina/healthy-is-sexy.html/feed 0 http://myblueheart.org/filipina/the-truth-about-women-sex-and-alcohol.html http://myblueheart.org/filipina/the-truth-about-women-sex-and-alcohol.html#comments Mon, 31 Aug 2009 11:00:44 +0000 Blue Rose http://myblueheart.org/?p=1474 More »]]> For most couples, alcohol is either the ultimate confidence booster, guaranteed to liven up the action between the sheets, or the death knell of a promising encounter, leaving one or both of you too stewed for love. But the real interaction between alcohol and sex is more nuanced, says SUNY at Potsdam sociologist David Hanson, Ph. D., the author of Preventing Alcohol Abuse. For instance, some of alcohol’s apparent aphrodisiac effects may be there because we want them to be. “Alcohol does have a real physical impact, but there’s also a big aspect of expectancy,” Hanson says. “What we think is going to happen while we’re under the influence is likely to happen.”

Researchers say people assign too much blame to alcohol for the way their sex lives play out. They also give it too much credit. We’ve cleared away the misconceptions about alcohol and sex to help ensure that this vaunted social lubricant will enhance your love life—not destroy it.

Read more: http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/women_sex_and_alcohol/index.php#ixzz0PjwTnGUc

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PROBLEM: She initiates sex about as often as Libya initiates peace – While one survey showed that nearly two-thirds of women say they initiate sex at least sometimes, the bad news is that she counts occasional hair-flipping as initiation. At least once every few weeks, it’d be nice to have our shirts torn apart by someone other than the dry cleaner. 

SOLUTION: Buy her new shoes – It works two ways. One, you’re playing into her idea of foreplay: Doing something terribly nice and out of the ordinary makes her want you more. And, even more important, it gives you the chance to work all of those sensitive nerve endings in her feet. When you check her for fit, linger around the tips of her toes. Don’t be surprised if she kicks off her shoes as soon as you get home. 

PROBLEM: She hides her body under sheets, pillows, and you – You’ve spent your life imagining your body next to airbrushed babes from beer commercials. She’s spent the same time comparing herself with them. If she doesn’t like to reveal flesh, it’s probably because she’s not comfortable showing it off to you.

SOLUTION: Stop telling her how much you love her legs – Women is weird this way. “If you say something nice about her breast, she’ll just wonder why you don’t like her butt,” says Pamela Regan, Ph.D., a psychologist at California State University in Los Angeles. Go for general compliments. Tell her, “Your body is incredible.” 

PROBLEM: Your bedroom sounds like high-school detention — silence, with maybe a few giggles – Men love it when women moan, scream, and pant. It makes it sound — to the flight attendants, anyway — as if we know what we’re doing.

SOLUTION: Create chaos – If she’s quiet, it’s probably because she’s afraid of waking the guards. So create background noise to make her feel relaxed — run the dishwasher, have sex in the shower, drop a CD. You can even sing a little: When you’re giving her oral sex hum along. The low vibrations from your vocal cords will feel incredible to her. Press firmly with your lips; that are where you’ll generate the most vibration.

 PROBLEM: She’s squeamish about giving you oral sex – Maybe she’s shy, maybe she doesn’t know what you like, maybe she equates oral sex with an unpleasant circus trick.

SOLUTION: Turn her hands into a bumper – Lou Paget, author of How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure, gives seminars on proper oral-sex technique. So she’s a hero in our book, especially after she shared this tip for mouth-to-south resuscitation. When your partner starts giving you oral sex, take her hands off your thighs and hold them with yours (she’ll like that). Then guide her hands to your penis so they form a tube around it. As her mouth goes up and down, rotate her hands clockwise and counterclockwise. The bonus for you: Different tactile sensations make it feel even better than straight oral sex. The bonus for her: smooth sailing will boost her confidence. Her hands will act as a comfortable bumper between the 3 inches of her mouth and the 5 inches (or more) of your penis.

PROBLEM: She won’t lay a hand on you – There’s no reason why foreplay has to be limited to kissing, unhooking straps, and kicking the dog out of the room.

SOLUTION: Tell her your neck hurts – Sex without fondling is more of a drag race than a pleasure trip: No warm-up and you’ll be lucky if it lasts 3.2 seconds. Your goal is to have her take a few laps around your body, with several important pit stops. Start by complaining of a stiff neck. After she helps out, offer to do hers. Switch body parts back and forth. When she starts reaching your lower half, take her hands and have her position one hand vertically, the other horizontally — palm to palm. She’ll then lower these palms of pleasure over your penis. When she strokes you, your penis will slide up between her fingers. Use a little Astroglide and she’ll have you bleating out of her hand.

PROBLEM: Her orgasms roughly coincide with congressional elections – Her orgasms don’t just make her feel good; they’re an undeniable marker of your success as a sex machine. The fewer she has, the wimpier you feel.

SOLUTION: Distract her – The top cause of orgasmic difficulty in women is that they’re thinking about it too much, says Mark Elliott, Ph.D., a sex therapist. If you can keep her mind on other things, you increase the chances that her quakes will be picked up by the geology department at the local university. Try “69,” kiss her passionately while having intercourse, encourage her to tell you about her fantasies as she gets more and more aroused — anything to keep her from focusing on why she’s not having an orgasm. If that fails, tell her about this position: While she’s on top, she should push her left leg forward so it slides slightly toward your head (her knees stay bent) and gently slide her right leg toward your feet. Every few thrusts, she should alternate positions. The pelvic pressure this position creates — and the rotation around your penis — is pretty damn orgasmic. If she asks where you heard about it, do what we do: Say you read it in a magazine.

PROBLEM: She won’t experiment – For many women, it boils down to this: She thinks that if she tries fancy techniques, you’ll think she’s a slut.

SOLUTION: Give her a squeaky-clean source of dirty ideas (and cheesecake recipes) – Buy her a subscription to Redbook — surprisingly, by our count, an average issue has more information about sex technique than other women’s magazines. Do whatever you want to get it in your house: Tell her you found it on the train, or in the men’s-room stall. It won’t be long before she’s searching for “35 New Places to Touch a Man.”

Source: Menshealth

College student Lily, who admits to being sexually active, also ‘fesses up that she and her boyfriend don’t us any kind of protection. “I don’t want to take pills and my boyfriend isn’t too keen on using a condom,” she says. “Sometimes we abstain, but when we do it, I just really hope that I don’t get pregnant. I don’t worry about the other bad stuff because my boyfriend is faithful to me and we’re young. So far we’ve been lucky.”

Relying on luck though when it comes to life-altering choices is never ever that reliable. But the problem is most teens don’t think that those choices they’re making about sex now can alter their lives to begin with. According to many studies on adolescent psychiatry, most teens fail to see how their actions now will affect their future.  Have sex now, worry later. Others, without knowledge on what they’re getting into, don’t even know what to worry about.

The risk of early premarital sex

Although unwanted pregnancies and STDs are the more immediate consequences teens might face due to early sexual activity, what’s happening to their body should also be of concern. As adolescents are still in a stage of development, so are their reproductive organs. Because when you engage in early sexual activity, you’re exposing the immature cells (in your developing reproductive organs) to external environmental factors – like the coitus (or intercourse). The cervix is not yet ready to take on the kind of activity. So what happens is through the years the cells grow into dysplastic or abnormal cells. Those developing abnormal cells put one at high risk in developing cervical cancer. Another risk factor is promiscuity, the more partners you have, that’s also a problem. The good thing is cervical cancer doesn’t happen overnight; however, this just makes the risk not all that immediate, hence not a reality for many sexually active teens. But the risk is so real; more than half of women who developed cervical cancer later in life became sexually active at an early age.

How do you stop yourself from being at risk?

- The most sensible (and obvious) way is to wait it out. Postpone having sex until you’re emotionally and biologically ready for the responsibilities and consequences sex entails.

- If you’re already sexually active, be monogamous. Having different sexual partners increases your chances of acquiring different STDs and developing a reproductive tract cancer (the most common of which is cancer of the cervix).

- Be aware of your body. If you’re not sexually active or if you’re monogamous, if you get infection in the cervix – characterized by a lot of vaginal discharge, which can be abnormal in color or with an abnormal smell – consult your family physician or gynecologist. Don’t let such infections go untreated because they can develop more abnormalities in your cervix.

- As soon as you start having sex or at the age of 25, you should get an annual pap smear screening.

 It is also called the sexual etiquette, miss manners can tell you which fork to use at a garden party or explain the elaborate protocol of weddings. But who’s to explain the etiquette of sex? Pardon the presumption, but here’s a rough sketch of an ethic of sexual decency – guidelines to ensure that we treat our lovers with kindness, decency, playfulness, and pleasuring.

Remember the golden rule – “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” works as well between the sheets as it does anywhere else.

Take the time to make yourself desirable – in longtime marriages, and even in longish relationships, lovers tend to let themselves go to seed without really sensing how unfair that it is to their partner. You notice when your partners comes to bed with face or legs covered with stubble, or without having showered, or with un-brushed teeth. Why shouldn’t your partner notice when you do the same? You may feel desire, but is you don’t take the trouble to make yourself desirable, is it really fair to ask for sex?

Ask for what you want – it’s not fair or right to present yourself to a lover and say, in effect, “Here’s my body – see if you can figure out what to do with it.” For one thing, if you don’t know how to ask for what you want, you’re virtually guaranteed not to get it. For another, by not helping your partner satisfy you, you’re setting him (or her) up for failure, touching off the tumble toward blame, anger and recrimination. If you have the strength and self-respect to ask, it will help your partner do the same.

Make sure that was a yes – you need to be sure that your partner has given full consent to sex. Sexual etiquette means nothing if it doesn’t honor this basic sexual right. And consent is not something that required only of college kids on a date. Its question of propriety tat applies to any sexual relationship, even a married one.

Take no for an answer – if your partner can tor wont give you what you want (oral sex, say), then it’s unfair to bully or browbeat them into giving it anyway. To pressure a lover by withholding love, threatening them or making the feel unworthy constitutes kind of sexual blackmail. A ‘no’ may not always last forever. It’s acceptable to ask again later, if you do so in kind, undemanding way.

Take responsibility – you need to take responsibility for your own sexual needs and desires accept them with reverence and gratitude – and let your partner know what they are.

Respect your partner’s nakedness – “Where else are we as vulnerable as we are during sex?” asks Jude Cotter, Ph.D., psychologist and sex therapist in private practice in Farmington Hills, Michigan. “We are naked, physically and spiritually, and there’s an obligation to be sensitive to that vulnerability.”

During extended foreplay, air taken up into the vagina will sometimes escape in little farts the French call “love butterflies.” A woman should feel comfortable letting fly a few butterflies in front of her lover, or saying or doing whatever else she wishes, without fear that such intimacies will be later violated. To violate the privacies that are shared during sex should be a crime. (It’s not just a spy who traffic in pillow talks).

Remember to say thank you – if you thank the bagboy at the grocery store for helping you load the car, shouldn’t you also always thank your lover for more important favors? (There are plenty of ways to say thank you, of course, and some of the nicest ones don’t require words.)

Keep some things secret – what people say during orgasm, more lyrically known as “birdsong at morning,” is private and should be kept secret. The Indians didn’t keep parrots or mynah birds in their bedrooms because of how readily the birds pick up and repeated such privacies – so don’t you do it, either.

The Beard – a married man was visiting his girlfriend when she requested that he shave his beard. “Oh Larry, I like your beard, but I would really love to see your handsome face.” Larry replied, “My wife loves this beard. I couldn’t possibly do it. She would kill!” “Oh please?” the girlfriend asked again, in a sexy little voice. “Really, I can’t,” he replied. “My wife loves this beard!” The girlfriend asked once more, he sighed and finally give in. That night, Larry crawled into bed next to his wife while she was sleeping. The wife was awakened, turned toward him, felt his face and said, “Oh Fred, you shouldn’t be here. My husband will be home soon!”

Spaghetti Baby – a doctor was having an affair with his nurse. Shortly afterward, she told him she was pregnant. Not wanting his wife to know, he gave the nurse a sum of money and asked her to go to US and have the baby there. “But how will I let you know the baby is born?” she asked. He replied, “Just send me a postcard and write ‘spaghetti’ on the back. I’ll take care of the expenses.”  Not knowing what else to do, the nurse took the money and flew to US. Six months went by until one day the doctor’s wife called him at the office. “Dear, you received a very strange postcard in the mail today from US, and I don’t understand what it means.” The doctor said, “Just wait until I get home and I will explain it to you.” Later that evening, the doctor came home, read the postcard, fell to the floor with a heart attack. Paramedics rushed him to the ER. The lead medic stayed back to comfort the wife. He asked what trauma had precipitated the cardiac arrest. So the wife picked up the card and read, “Spaghetti, spaghetti, spaghetti, spaghetti-two with sausage and meatballs, two without.”

What’s the name daddy? – a high school girl finally had the opportunity to go to a party alone. Since she was a good looking, she was a bit nervous about what to do if boys hit on her. Her mom said, “It is very easy! Whenever a boy starts hitting on you, ask him ‘What will be the name of our baby?’ that will scare the off.” So off she went. After a while at the party a boy started dancing with her and, little by little, kissing her and touching her. She asked him, “What will be the name of our baby?” The boy found some excuse and disappeared. Some time later the same thing happened again, a boy started to kiss her neck, her shoulders. She stopped him and asked him, “What will be the name of our baby?” He ran off. Later on, another boy invited her for a walk. After a few minutes he started kissing her and she asked him, “What will our baby be called?” He continued, now slowly taking her clothes off. “What will be the name of our baby?” she asked once more. He began to have sex with her. “What will be the name of our baby?!” she asked again. After he was done, he peeled off his condom, tied it in a knot and said, “If he gets out of this one…David Copperfield!”

Grandma’s boyfriend – a ten year-old boy went to visit his grandmother one day. Playing with his toys in her bedroom while grandma was dusting, he looked up and said, “Grandma, how come you don’t have a boyfriend now that Grandpa went to heaven?” Grandma replied: “Honey, my TV is my boyfriend. I can sit in my bedroom and watch at all day long. The religious programs make me feel good and the comedies make me laugh. I’m happy with my TV as my boyfriend.” Grandma turned on the TV, and the reception was terrible. She started adjusting the knobs, trying to get the picture in focus. Frustrated, she started hitting the backside of the TV hoping to fix the problem. The little boy heard the doorbell ring, so he hurried to open the door, and there stood Grandma’s minister. The minister said, “Hello son is your Grandma home?” the little boy replied, “Yeah, she’s in the bedroom banging’ her boyfriend.”

Tattoos – “are they safe?” – Usually, if done properly. But if the needle isn’t sterilized, there is a risk of getting blood-borne infections (like HIV or hepatitis C). Also, always make sure the tattoo artist uses new packaged needles.

Zits – “what causes them?” – Acne starts at puberty. As your hormone levels change, they trigger excess oil production that can clog pores and lead to zits. Pick products with salicylic acid to keep oil from building up. If that doesn’t help, consult your dermatologist for a stronger treatment.

Bumps – “why are they on my arms?” – It’s a condition called keratosis pilaris, which looks like chicken skin and is caused by dryness and sensitivity. To help get rid of it, use an alpha-hydroxy-acid cream and an exfoliating scrub twice a week.

Whitening – “my skin tone is uneven. How can I get radiant skin?” – Use whitening facial foam that contains important vitamins is skin needs (B3, B6, C, and E). This will gently wash away melanin (cause of dark spots) contained in dead cells, while retaining natural skin moisture.

Acne – “is it contagious?” – No, but staph bacteria (which can cause boils and sties) and the herpes virus (which causes cold sores) are contagious. These can be invisible, and both can be spread by sharing makeup – so use only your own.

Facials – “should I get one at a spa?” – They aren’t necessary for clear skin, but they can help unclog pores and get rid of flaky patches. Try a facial at home.

Stretch marks – “why do I have them?” – During a growth spurt or sudden weight gain, your body grows faster than your skin can keep up with, causing the elastic tissue under it to overstretch and leave a mark. A prescription Retin-A cream will fade the mark but wont totally erase it.

Itchy skin – “why do I get this?” – When the natural oils in your skin dry up, they create an itchy sensation. Scratching makes skin drier and even itchier. To get relief, take a cool five-minute shower daily, then use a rich cream on damp skin to seal in moisture.

Bacne – “what causes it?” – trapped sweat. But fluctuating hormones from your period can make bacne even worse. To prevent it, try wearing breathable fabrics (like Nike’s Dri-Fit) when exercising. If you still break out, try washing with an antibacterial soap, like safeguard or dial, and then use an acne treatment after showering.

Warm up – rev up your muscles by ding light aerobic exercise for five minutes (like jogging or walking in place) before stretching to prevent you from straining your muscles.

Don’t go over board – gently ease yourself into the stretch and relax (don’t push too hard or bounce!). You’re after a stretch in the muscle – not pain.

Breathe right – don’t hold your breath! Inhale deeply while preparing to do the stretch, exhale as you execute it.

Hold it – keep the stretch for 20 to 30 seconds. Any shorter and you wont get any benefit from the stretch, but longer than that might cause injury.

Get into it – close your eyes and stay with it. Enjoy the warm feeling that comes with a good stretch (instead of rushing off to the next one).