By Blue Rose on Sunday, 24 of May , 2009 at 4:42 pm
Why do some of the Filipinas like Foreigners to be their husband or boyfriend? What has to do with the Filipino guys? Is there any differences in attitude and character? Is money and luxury has great effect on it? or it has to do with love even if you belong to different culture and races?
Tell me your comments, answers and suggestions, I may post it and let our men redears know why, how, and what they have to do to capture a Filipina Heart. I will gladly appreciate your comments.
By Blue Rose on Tuesday, 19 of May , 2009 at 3:19 pm
Yes it is a sad fact.
Sex addicts usually have a recognizable profile. For one thing, the vast majorities are men – they outnumber women four to one, in fact. More than 80 percent have some other kind of addiction – to the bottle, to gambling, to drugs (cocaine is the drug of choice for sex addicts). They generally suffer from low self-esteem. And they almost invariably report having been abused as children. Sex addiction, in fact, may be one of the many long-range consequences of child abuse – tragedy in a slow fuse. Abused kids not only come to feel worthless, they also come to think humiliation and shame are a part of normal sexual expression.
A second level addict is those whose behavior has escalated into things that could get them arrested and often involves a victim – exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls. At this most extreme level, sex addiction can turn into the most heinous of crimes, like rape, incest or child molestation.
So many people have found themselves giving distressing answers to the factors that was stated before, and a nationwide sexual addiction recovery movement has emerged in the United States in recent years. Four major self-help groups, all of them modeled on the 12-step recovery program developed by Alcoholics Anonymous, have come into existence. The goal of this program, according to one recovering sex addict says recovering from alcoholism is a “walk on the beach” compared with overcoming the shame and degradation of sex addiction. Still, if you’ve got a problem, a self-help group may be your best hope. You may wish to contact national self-help group, which could have a local branch in your area (Sexaholics Anonymous, Box 300, Simi Valley, CA 93062; or Sex Addicts Anonymous, P.O. Box 3038, Minneapolis, MN 55403).
I hope and wish this may help even a little.
By Blue Rose on Sunday, 17 of May , 2009 at 3:29 pm
Is it possible to get “hooked” on sexual pleasure, just the way people get addicted to alcohol or drugs?
In the recent years, the question has become one of the hottest debates in psychology. On the other hand, many responsible sex experts claim there are a huge number of people who’s craving for the “high” of sex – usually promiscuous, anonymous sex – can legitimately be considered a true addiction. In extreme cases, these addicts hunt so obsessively for illicit sexual stimulation that it wrecks their marriages, careers and physical health.
On the other hand, other authorities complain that “sex addiction” is a fad diagnosis for something that cannot be legitimately be considered a true addiction at all. Some believe, if anything, it’s a problem more closely related to compulsions like anorexia than addictions like alcoholism. Others note that if this problem is addiction, it’s the only one whose “cure” doesn’t require complete abstinence. (After all, you can live without alcohol or drugs, but it would be both unhealthy and unrealistic to ask people to live without sex.)
How many sex addicts are there? Dr. Carnes estimates there may be as many as 7 to 14 million population, and then there is 3 to 6 percent of the population has this disease. The most common form of addict is the person who flits from affair to affair and may occasionally visit prostitutes, porn shops, or blue movies. Although he or she feels ashamed and is secretive about such behavior, it continues even despite effort to stop.
How can you tell if your sexual urges have started to run out of control? Dr. Carnes suggests that you consider the following factors. If most of the answers to the pertinent questions are yes, there may well be an element of unhealthy compulsion in your sexual behavior.
Feelings of despair. After sex, do you have feelings of shame, despair, and emptiness?
Secrecy. Do you feel a need to keep your sexual behavior a secret? Do you thrive on the thrill of leading a clandestine “double life”?
Abuse. Do you engage in sexual practices that are abusive or exploitative? Do you have sex with partners who are not completely willing?
Empty relationships. Do you have sex with partners whom you don’t really even know – or worse, whom you don’t even like?
Compromised values. Does your sexual behavior consistently violate your ethical values?
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 13 of May , 2009 at 4:52 pm
The first stage in solving stress-inducing problems is to define them clearly. Ask yourself whether a problem is related to a particular situation or is a general reaction. For, example, is it all criticism that upsets you, or only criticism from particular people? Look, too, for the reasons underlying other people’s reactions rather than assuming that it is you who are at fault. Then think out a wide range of possible solutions, rejecting those that you know from experience do not work. Do not delude yourself into thinking that if you try hard enough, a chosen solution must work. This is not true. It is the quality of effort involved in seeking out feasible solutions, not the amount, that is important.
Next strategies in dealing with stress are learning to relax and learning to modify your behavior in order to avoid stress or alleviate it. Relaxation helps reduce stress by distracting your mind from stress-provoking thoughts. It also helps to counter the effects of the “fight or flight” (means if your ready to face the danger-fight, if you run away-flight) reaction. Learning to relax takes considerable practice, and mastery comes slowly.
As an alternative to physical relaxation, use your imagination. For example, imagine a pleasant, peaceful scene, such as a sunny, deserted beach. Close your eyes and concentrate on all the colors, smells, and sounds. Put yourself in the picture in a relaxed position. Continue imagining yourself on the beach for 10 to 15 minutes. You might find a sound-effects tape helps to increase the reality of the scene. You could also try techniques such as meditation, massage, or biofeedback.
Exercise, diet, and sleep play an enormous part in reducing stress, as well as in maintaining more general bodily fitness. It is very easy to become so involve in the serious business of living that you never find the time or energy to play. Make sure that you regularly do things just for fun. It may be as simple as taking a walk in a park, going to the movies, or even doing something you would normally think of as childish, such as jumping into a pile of fallen leaves or splashing in puddles. If life seems to be full of worries, try to see the lighter side. Laughter is a great antidote for stress, and if you can laugh, those around you will also feel less stress when they are in your company.
One of the best, but most difficult, stress-relieving strategies is to change your responses to the events around you. In a traffic jam, for example, instead of honking your horn and fuming, try leaning back and relaxing. Wind down your window and see if you can catch someone’s eye and make him or her smile. If your first attempt isn’t successful, don’t give up – try something different, and don’t forget to smile.
By Blue Rose on Monday, 11 of May , 2009 at 4:56 pm
What is stress? What causes it? Is it really that bad on our health?
Stress is usually thought of as a particular response of the body to threatening external events. Surprisingly, perhaps, stress is the body’s general response to ay demand on it, regardless of whether that demand is pleasant or unpleasant, and whether it is emotional or physical. The stressful effects of accidents or bereavements, or of simply trying to keep up with the many tasks you have to accomplish during the day, are obvious. But the physiological responses to happy events such as getting married, having a baby, receiving an increase in salary, or falling in love, are strikingly similar to those brought about by unhappy events.
Stress is sometimes gives us help, all living creatures need challenges to keep them stimulated, and human beings are no exception. Without challenges, people become dull and apathetic, and lose the will to live life to the fullest. Overt, damaging stress occurs when challenges become impossible to cope with. In this sense, stress is a protective reaction to too much challenge.
In order to combat stress, you have to be able to recognize when it’s affecting you. Use the physical and mental symptoms listed to help you discern whether stress is affecting you; but remembers that many of them can have other causes and it is the changes in the behavior that are significant. If an activity is ingrained, it is a habit, not a sign of stress.
Do you recognize two or more of the following in yourself or someone close to you? If so, the problems need to be tackled immediately.
Physical Symptoms
- Have your eating habits changed?
- Has your sleep pattern altered?
- Is your digestive system upset?
- Have you developed any nervous habits, such as fidgeting or touching your hair and face repeatedly?
-Is your blood pressure raised?
- Do you have frequent headaches, cramps and muscle spasms?
- Have you become hyperactive?
- Have your sexual performance, drive and enjoyment, deteriorate?
- Are you drinking or smoking more?
Mental Symptoms
- Have you began to suffer from a phobia or obsession?
- Have you lost self-confidence and self-esteem?
- Do you constantly feel guilty?
- Do you dread the future?
- Have you memory and concentration deteriorated?
- Do you find yourself unable to finish one task properly before having to rush on to the next?
- Do you feel constantly irritated and angry?
- Do you feel isolated?
- Do you fill the day with trivial tasks?
- Do you find it hard to make decisions?
- Do you often cry or feel like crying?
- Does your mind race so that you cannot focus on one tasks or thought?
Evaluate your self; I will bring you up next time on how you can manage your stress out.
By Blue Rose on Friday, 8 of May , 2009 at 4:26 pm
We talked about top 12 drinks that cause the worst hangover before, now I will give you the cures for hangovers.
- - The doctor’s cure – a pint of water with a pinch of salt and a pinch of sugar, which replace vital lost substances. Plus two anti-inflammatories (such as Nurofen) to reduce the swelling in your brain.
- - The Coca-cola and fry-up cure – both of these help simply because they immediately raise your blood sugar levels. However, in the longer term, they are fattening and not healthy.
- - The juice cure – fruit juice helps flush your system of body toxins and rehydrate it. Blend together eight ounces carrot juice, one ounce beet juice, four ounces celery juice, and one ounce parsley juice.
- - The detox cure – aloe vera detoxifying juice cleanses the liver and colon – it’s not to everyone’s taste, but it’s a hit at health food shops.
Here are some tips on fast acting energy boosting cure after the night-out drinking party.
- - A banana – the mixture of three natural sugars, glucose, fructose, and sucrose, means that the energy is released more slowly and tends to be longer lasting.
- - Gatorade – sports drinks provided an ideal balance between fluid replacement and carbohydrate refueling. ‘Isotonic’ means the drink contains about the same concentration of dissolved particles as body fluids, so it can rehydrate you faster than plain water.
- - Whole wheat crackers – the carbohydrate will give you energy, but the presence of fiber means the rise in sugar and energy levels is slow and well controlled.
- - Dried apricots – contain natural sugar for quick energy boost similar to one from a bar of chocolate without the fat.
- - Ginseng tea – ginseng stimulates the production of testosterone. One cup and there’ll be no stopping you.
By Blue Rose on Wednesday, 6 of May , 2009 at 3:50 pm
Kissing is a kind of touch that has as much range as a big-city orchestra. It can be a perfunctory peck on the check, so asexual that balding Communist party apparatchiks aren’t ashamed to do it on TV, or it can be so explosively erotic it’s about as close to intercourse as you can get. French kissing (what’s sometimes called “soul kissing”), in which one’s tongue deeply penetrates a lover’s mouth, is an almost perfect mimic of intercourse itself. In fact, the late Dr. Alfred Kinsey reported, a few women become so aroused by French kissing that they’re able to climax without any genital stimulation at all.
The lips, the tongue and all the wet caverns of the mouth are richly supplied with nerve endings, making them exquisitely sensitive to the touch. (Because they’re nearly as sensitive as the genitals, in fact, it’s no wonder that mouths and genitals, the two most inflammatory hot spots of the body, often wind up in direct contact during sex.)
The erotic potential of the lips and tongue has not been lost on the animals. Most mammals, even some fish, birds, and lizards, will dally in oral sex play for long period of time – hours, sometimes – before actual intercourse takes place. They make sensuous contact with their lips and tongues (”kissing,” you might say), they lick each other all over, they nuzzle, they nibble, they bite. In fact, humans who (for whatever reason) don’t kiss or lick each other during sex are the exception among all the mammals.
Lots of people prefer to make love face to face, so they can kiss. Some people like to kiss intermittently, others almost continuously, on the lips, on the face or all over.
According to the sixteenth-century Tunisian love manual “The Perfumed Garden”, the only sort of kiss that’s really appropriate during intercourse is the French kiss. But the sixteenth century was a long time ago, so feel free to write an amorous new chapter of your own.
By Mr.Pancake on Sunday, 3 of May , 2009 at 9:43 pm
I was lucky this weekend. I got to attend a fun, relaxing and exiting weekend cruise. It was really a relaxing trip without any telephone and Internet. Really that is not totally correct. My mobile phone was working but at satellite rate and since I refuse to pay silly high rates for phone calls, SMS and Internet I was by all practical means cut of from the world.
For you that have never attended a Cruise I want to provide some background information. A Weekend or Mini Cruise is basically one, two or three night on board a luxury ship going from one port to another and returning. The marked for Mini cruises have increased at high rate for the last years and now you have offerings in Europe and the US that cost only from USD100 and up. Some packages includes 3 meals a day and for some packages you have to pay for your food.
My experience is that this Cruises now are really good value for money. You get 5 star hotel standard at less than 40% of comparable hotel rates. The ship included a big hotel with maybe 2500 rooms, in my case the ship had 12 restaurants and a few hamburger bars. So you can eat cheap or 6 course gourmet meals depending on your mood and your wallet.
My trip lasted for 2 night. The ship had 2 fantastic shows every evening and a number of other entertainments. There was a 160 meeter long shopping street inside with a number of tax free stores, a swimming pool and a cinema. I specially enjoyed the Massage and the bubble bath in the Spa and Fitness Center. I also tried the Sauna and spend a few hours in the Gym.
On my boat they did not call it Swimming pool, it is called Aqualand. It is a range of pools and fun for kids and grown ups. Really cool. For the younger population the boat also had Adventure Planet, Teen Plaza and Kids corner. For some adults the Casinos are very popular.
Since 1990 the cruise industry has grown at an average annual passenger rate of 7.4%. By year end 2009 the cruise market will reach 16 million annual passengers worldwide. Looking forward to 2011 that number is projected to reach 17.9 million.
Have you ever been to a Cruise or want to attend a Cruise. Please tell me about it by leaving a comment below.
